My Approach to Helping
I’m a professional therapist with 32 years of experience helping children, adolescents, adults, and elders. I am confident that I will be able to aid in most issues that I agree to address in therapy.
Most folks that seek professional assistance are afraid. They have a fear of disclosing issues that may be embarrassing, and fear that the professional may think they are worse off than they thought😊
Therapy is practiced with curiosity, acceptance, playfulness, and empathy. It is a gentle process. A professional therapist will never confront you without your permission. You are seeking professional advice. The professional does not take over for you.
My current initial approach is to: 1) learn about your goal for completing therapy, 2) discover personal strengths you may be ready to apply, 3) find out more about your natural reluctance to meet your goal, and 4) examine any worries you may have about meeting your goal that may have their origin in emotional reasoning. From there it is much easier to develop a realistic action plan for meeting your goal. This initial approach is informed by current theory in Motivational Interviewing, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, and Immunity to Change.
A final approach is to match your remaining needs with issue specific therapy. Examples of these therapies could be Cognitive-Behavioral, Mindfulness, Trauma-informed Cognitive Therapy, Family Systems, for instance. There are many more. We will negotiate a best fit for your needs.
A final thought. I have been employed and trained as a Social Worker. As such, I am highly familiar with most income maintenance and mental health resources in the state. I do not overlook survival stresses that you may be bringing to the therapy experience. We all need to feel secure enough in the first place to concentrate on issues that will require more sustained self-examination. We can address first things first as needed.
More Info About My Practice
I will interact with clients by phone, in person, or on secure video conferencing platforms. If you elect phone or video conferencing, I will e-mail you forms to complete before our first session. You can then mail these back.
I use Pay Pal for credit card payments. I also accept personal checks and cash for the correct amount.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I have developed a special interest in helping men in Chicago who are adjusting to life post-incarceration, and who also may have been victimized by poorly performing schools. Living on the South Side has helped me understand that men of color here have traditionally been targeted by a variety of public systems that increase their chance for being jailed. Once jailed, prospects for job and successful relationships diminish, which only increases the likelihood of re-incarceration.
Although I will never be able to experience what it is like to live in Chicago with dark skin, I am increasingly aware of my white privilege and the opportunities it has afforded me. I am anxious to pull my weight within in the community of diversity where we are all better off thinking of ourselves as "family."
I have had extensive professional experience working from personal, family, and community systems perspectives. This has enabled me to understand the complexity of becoming a "self" within the context of primary social networks. I am increasingly amazed by the historic strength of extended family units and their potential for increasing survival.
I can be helpful: 1) Improving communication with partners, 2) Improving communication with children, 3) Developing alternative ways for searching jobs, 4) Recognizing and managing Learning Disabilities, 5) Recognizing and managing effects of chronic developmental trauma, 6) Managing sexual addictions, 7) Setting boundaries in families-of-origin, and extended family, 8) Learning Meditation or Prayer as ways of increasing peacefulness, 9) Adopting changes in lifestyle balance, 10) Learning helpful new hobbies.