My Approach to Helping
My psychotherapy practice is dedicated to helping people relieve suffering, improve their relationships, and reach their fullest potential. I practice Relational Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy from an Existential as well as Buddhist perspective. I treat individuals suffering from anxiety and depression. I enjoy working with couples on relationships issues. As an experienced mediator, with training in Non-Violent Communication, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy in my work with couples to help deepen intimacy and navigate through conflict. Currently, I provide psychotherapy for individuals, couples, and groups, in private practice at Ahimsa Counseling Services on Mondays through Fridays.
There is a lesson in Buddhism about the sixth patriarch of the Zen tradition, Huineng. While traveling, he came across two monks arguing as they observed a flag fluttering in the breeze. One monk said, "The flag is moving." The other disagreed and said, "The wind is moving."
Huineng corrected them both by saying, "Neither the wind nor the flag are moving. It is your mind that moves."
To me, the story above points to how the mind shapes not only our experiences, but the world in which we live. There is a great deal we can do individually to calm the mind and find peace, such as meditation, yoga, relaxation techniques and spiritual exercises. As you may have already experienced, there remains aspects of the mind that are difficult to see into without help.
My training has taught me to help people examine and describe the life they have, identifying areas in which they are stuck and reconnect to the life-goals that motivated them. Sometimes this stuckness has to do with certain feelings, sometimes it is about past traumas, often it shows up as repeating patterns in significant relationships, and sometimes it manifests as a malaise in which a direction in life seems impossible to find. Often people have a sense of why they are stuck, but have a hard time bringing all the pieces together in a way that allows new learning to take place. Some things are too painful or terrifying to bear alone. Together, we will seek to find the roots of the stuckness. Once that stuckness is truly experienced and witnessed, it gifts us the information we need to move forward in life. With new experience, our world becomes a larger and more exciting place, more rich in possibilities; a place where we are both more comfortable being with ourselves as well as with others.