My Approach to Helping
I specialize in relational problems and transition issues, such as: relational, career, and season of life transitions. I also help people experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, unemployment, identity development, abuse and trauma recovery, and spiritual concerns.
"Hold Me Tight"/EFT Couple Therapist: Helping couples recover from relational struggles is a particular passion of mine. Even if there has been a betrayal, or you have drifted apart for some time, feeling locked in the same old arguments or cycles of events--there is hope to restore what you once had. I am in the process of being certified in EFT Couple's Therapy, a highly successful method of therapy that centers on strengthening a couple's emotional bond: that experience of feeling known, cared for and safe with each other, knowing that if I call, you will be there for me.
I believe each person has been uniquely created for a particular purpose, and to enjoy deep and meaningful relationships. I enjoy helping clients uncover their purpose for themselves, and, when necessary, working through issues from their past, or hurdles in their current relationships that leave them feeling isolated, empty and hopeless. It is humbling, yet satisfying work, to collaborate with clients, whether individuals, couples or families, and help them navigate the future with grace, strength, hope, and joy.
More Info About My Practice
I am a relationallly-oriented attachment therapist...this means that our relationship is the foundation of our work together. I offer a complementary 15-minute phone consultation for those who would prefer a conversation before coming in for a full session. Simply call A New Day to set up a consultation phone call or an appointment with me.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
The more I do this work, the more I am convinced that much of what is broken within us can be healed through the experience of being safe, known, and cared for by at leasat one other person. Sometimes the first person to offer that safety and care is a therapist. Ideally, the next person will be someone in the client's "real life," who can be trusted to carry on the lifelong need for connection: to be known, safe and cared for. In my couple's work, I think the most important help I offer is to help each partner say what is most important for them, in a way their partner can hear, receive, and respond to in love. From the beginning session, I work to point two people toward each other, to learn how to be safe with one another, so that they can experience a deep and satisfying level of intimacy. From this place, I have found that couples can tackle most of what life throws at them, when they know we are deeply loved, grounded, and secure.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
To act as a "trail guide" for someone who is stuck somehow, in one area of life, or several, and feels at a loss as to how to proceed, or even, whether to proceed at all. To be a helpful guide, the most important tool I have is to deeply listen to the person/people I am with, and hear their story, their struggles, and their dreams. Then, once I have some sense of "the lay of the land," I collaborate with them to help them make sense of where they are, and how to move forward, to fully embrace the life they were meant to live: One where they are intimately connected to the people they love, and are doing the work they were created to do, with a sense of purpose and joy.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
My clients! My clients are the most fascinating people to me. I am absolutely in awe of the resilience and grace I witness in their lives. Many have overcome terrible hardships, and continue to strive for the life they dream of. I am also completely passionate about marriage--not just good enough marriage, but collaborating with couples to foster intimate, satisfying, and nurturing connection with each other. I am also passionate about helping people move from one place to another--to envision the nourishing relationships and meaningful work they desire, and help them break free of what holds them back from living the life they were born to live.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
To those who have had a bad therapy experience, I am so very sorry that you have been hurt before. Therapy can be uncomfortable at times, but it should never do harm. Talk to different therapists, talk to friends who have been in therapy, and ask them what they appreciate about it, and what they get out of it. If you feel uncomfortable when you meet a therapist, honor your discomfort. If they push too hard, that is not okay. You deserve to be treated with care, dignity and respect, by every one, at all times--especially in therapy. Best of everything to you in your search--you are obviously a person of perseverance to be open to trying again.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
I think "fit" is key. The therapist/client relationship is first and foremost, a relationship. It is important that the client feel safe, respected, and cared for by their therapist. If the fit is good--then I would say competence is the next most important factor. Does this person have a grasp of how to collaborate with the client to help that person move forward? Do they have a track record of helping other people? Have they been well trained in proven methods? Do they continue to grow professionally, and improve in expertise? These are two key factors in choosing a therapist.