My Approach to Helping
Sometimes the act of moving through your day is not as simple as you wished it would be. You may feel filled with anxiety, fear, disappointment or loss. Perhaps you are unsure about your relationship or you find yourself unsure about how to be in relationship with others. Maybe you find yourself wondering about your identity or you are developing your identity? Does your identity relate to your sexuality? All of these ideas may leave you feeling conflicted because you consider yourself a private person but you also want to talk to someone?
Many people are surprised how much better they feel when they talk to someone. They describe feeling as if a weight has been lifted and they are encouraged to move ahead. Some people discover a self-identity lost a long time ago. Whatever you find, you can feel rest assured that you will be in a safe, nurturing and supportive environment.
As a professional counselor with years of experience, I offer you clinical expertise and training, as a pastoral counselor I have the added advantage of addressing your spirituality as it may relate to your goals in counseling. My practice is holistically oriented and my promise to you is to respect you as an individual.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I would like to take this opportunity to invite those individuals struggling with sexual identity issues and/or L.G.B.T. issues to consider allowing me to join you on your journey to health and well being. Over the years I have had a great deal of experience working in the L.G.B.T. community. I have learned that while it may be difficult for adults struggling with sexual identity and/or L.G.B.T. issues, it is even more so challenging for adolescents. Acceptance, understanding and acculturation are just a few of the key issues that members of the L.G.B.T. community need to navigate and sometimes this navigation can be lonely, frustrating and confusing. In my opinion, connecting with someone that understands this is vital to one's emerging process. I offer my clients a safe and non-judgmental environment in which to safely explore and understand the emerging you!
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
In our fast-paced, high-tech world I believe we are starting to lose some of the pieces that connect us as human beings. While I marvel and embrace technology, I find it crucial to maintain some of the more traditional parts of the human connections we so vitally need and crave. I love being a therapist because I am allowed to create a safe, holding environment that fosters deep human connections. I am honored and humbled at the relationships I have with my clients. I consider it a privilege to earn their trust and I take very seriously the mission of providing a nurturing and non-judgmental space where my clients can explore and understand themselves. I am astonished at how the simple act of listening attentively can be so healing. I believe that the learning process didn't stop for me when I received my degrees and license but has only just begun. I am grateful to my clients for all that they teach me about courage, strength and perseverance.
Theoretical Influences that Guide My Work
I credit the work of Alfred Adler as having the biggest influence on me as a therapist. Amongst Adler's many contributions to the field of Psychology, I have gleaned much particularly in the areas of "belonging" and "social interest"
I believe, like Adler, that we all seek to belong. It is an innate part of who we are as human beings. We search for that sense of belonging throughout our life, starting with a primary caregiver followed by belonging to a family, a circle of friends, school mates, co-workers, colleagues, a significant other, etc. As part of this sense of belonging we are intrinsically motivated to take interest in those around us...which is a healthy piece of the equation. When these connections start to slip or fade away and we lose these connections we start to feel disconnected and out of sorts with ourselves. Some people utilize counseling to re-focus and re-connect, others are lead to counseling through other venues and some turn to counseling as a last resort, no matter what the reason, approaching a client from a holistic point of view is crucial and Adler genuinely believed this and offers tools that are consistent with my own person philosophy about counseling and help me accomplish these goals.