My Approach to Helping
The patterns and behaviors we learn early in life can help us cope with life’s challenges or hinder our development. Sometimes the skills we once used stop working. I want to help you build a newer, better toolbox. Whatever challenges you face, I offer a safe space for you to investigate your own mind and solve complex challenges. If you need help with depression, trauma, relationships issues, or anxiety, I approach your difficulties with curiosity. I hope to help you leave therapy feeling understood, heard, and empowered to make choices that improve your life.
More Info About My Practice
I believe change is a holistic process incorporating both mind and body. Mindfulness is important in my life and I bring that into my sessions with my clients. I want to teach people how to pause, reflect, and experience thoughts, images, sensations, and emotions. We move way too fast at times and find ourselves dysregulated and/or participating in maladaptive behaviors. By being grounded and clear, I lend clients my nervous system in session to help them feel safe. I am not perfect and am not afraid to own up to my mistakes. I believe that the therapeutic relationship can help repair old attachment wounds and so I work relationally with my clients.
I am genuine and warm. I believe in directness without confrontation. Since change is a holistic process, I use cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and somatic psychotherapy to support clients. These approaches help you better control your triggers and emotions while exploring your thoughts.
My rich professional and life experiences have given me insight and understanding. I am especially adept at helping women of color, and supporting clients to manage life transitions, loss and grief, body image, low self-esteem, systematic oppression, addiction, and mixed-race relationships.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I have had many careers in my life: teacher, librarian, software developer, manager. Through these careers, I learned that I love working with people and meeting their needs. However, they weren't soul nourishing enough for me. I am a psychotherapist because "I've been there." I've dealt with suffering and survived. As a survivor, I want to help people love life and engage fully. To see people connecting with their true selves gives me great joy. I am merely a guide in this process. You are doing the actual work and I am honored to be a witness.
My Therapy Focus
Self-love is very important to me. Through loving oneself we can truly share our love with others. We can get caught up in our own projections not enjoying life, damaging relationships. We are sometimes taught very early on that we need to be a certain way, especially in our appearance. We think that there is an ideal that needs to be met to be accepted. This does not need to be the case. We can learn to love our bodies and still experience the fullness of life. I use the approaches from Connie Sobczak's Body Positive training to foster body acceptance and self-love. The energy spent on hating ourselves and changing our bodies can be spent on loving ourselves and self-acceptance. If change is what you want, I help you to do so out of love and not hate. I work with depression, anxiety, and inner critic voices that come up when trying to navigate the path to self-love. We are all beautiful and I want to help clients see their beauty. I want to help you feel good about being you.