My Approach to Helping
Life happens to all of us. No one signs up to have a bad day, a divorce, a chronic illness, anxiety, or any of a thousand things that can happen. I believe that in spite of those difficult times, it is possible to experience peace and happiness. I walk beside my clients to help them reach their goals- and to leave their past behind them.
To do this, I try to make things as easy as possible. From providing a relaxing office space, to sometimes bringing one of my little dogs (corgis) with me, to offering a variety of times and ways to connect, I'm committed to helping you be successful.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
One of the topics that I frequently help my clients with is determining if their current relationship is able to stand the test of time. Relationships can add more joy and pain than almost anything else in our lives (except for children and money). Sometimes after so many years have passed or after a difficult event in our lives, it's normal for us to question if our relationship needs some changes, or even a big change.
I also do a lot of work helping women to lose the guilt that often plagues their every waking moment! No matter what choice we make- it seems there's guilt. So we focus a lot on being able to make decisions without feeling that guilt and learning the different between "good" guilt and "bad" guilt.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
I'm a big do-it-yourself person around the house. It's one of the things that brings me a lot of satisfaction and excitement everytime I learn a new skill (or when I try out a new skill.) But there have been plenty of times when I've started ripping out rotten boards and have had to call in professional back-up (this is when I'm thankful my significant other IS the professional for those types of emergencies).
I view psychotherapy the same way: sometimes we all get started on a project to make a new and improved version of ourself, our family, our relationship or our home, only to find out in the middle of the journey that we need someone who's done this before. Just like me trying to rip out my porch, you know the steps to make it happen. But there's often just a few tricky areas that you can either try to muster through on your own, or you can do it right the first time and call someone who's handled a few sticky situations like that before.
If you're ready for a change and you don't mind trying a few new things when those certain situations pop up, then maybe it's time you gave therapy a try!
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love being able to offer clients a place where they can be themselves without guilt. I work hard to be genuine, friendly and laid back. Together with my office mate, we've made our office relaxing and homey. In fact, it looks like a living room in the waiting room and in both rooms! But all of that is just to make clients feel at ease. I get excited talking about what I do, but I am even more excited to celebrate all of the successes of my clients! I get excited when I see them do things they never thought were possible! I love it when they reach the goals we've worked so hard on together. I love getting periodic check-ins from my clients where they contact me months later with updates on their lives! That's the best feeling in the world!
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Like teachers, doctors, and even sports teams, all therapists are different. Some are exceptionally talented and passionate about their work. Some are gifted at connecting to others. Some are very similar to a sports coach and they will run right beside you and push you to reach new limits that you may not have aspired to before.
But just because someone is a licensed professional doesn't mean they are a good fit for YOU. They may be a great person for your neighbor (or even your mother-in-law), or they may have written a few books or have lots and lots of fancy letters behind their name. But at the end of the day, none of that matters if you don't feel like they truly understand you and what's going on in your life. That connection to a therapist is essential- without that, you're not only going to have a less than perfect experience, but you're probably not going to see any changes in your life either.
Because of how strongly I feel about the connection being a pivotal and vital factor in therapy, I offer all of my potential clients a free, 20 minute phone consult. This gives you an opportunity to get to know me in a somewhat anonymous way. It gives you a chance to experience for yourself if I'm able to connect to you and what's going on in your life, and if you feel comfortable sharing with me- all at no cost to you. And I don't pressure you to make an appointment during that phone call. I even invite you to ask me any and all questions that you may have!