My Approach to Helping
With 30+ years of experience and solid training working with adults, parents, and children, I am dedicated to helping you feel and be your best as a parent, partner, and person navigating the ups and downs of life. With a direct and gentle style, I am open, sensitive and focused on you and your needs. Discover and resolve what contributes to, and helps maintain, underlying patterns of helplessness, self-defeat, and unsatisfying relationships. Self-exploration, leading to a broader understanding of early experiences and their influence on your life and relationships, can generate compassion, insight and awareness, creativity, better interpersonal skills, resilience, flexibility and more effective adaptations to life's challenges.
As a Hippa compliant psychologist and marriage & family therapist, I provide coaching clients with the same confidentiality and encrypted files to protect your privacy. Additionally, your personal information forms, personality and attachment screenings, credit card info, and notes are all kept in locked files.
Date Coaching: Are you single and struggling with dating or building a relationship? I offer private and group coaching, and workshops on an irregular basis. I coach individuals throughout the country, and overseas, by telephone, email, and face time. Local clients can come to my office if they like. Groups include informational talks, discussion, group interaction, sharing, role-play, demonstrations, and mindfulness as well as other exercises. Online learning will be available in the coming year.
Life Coaching: If you're not looking for therapy, but have some difficulties you can't figure out on your own, Life Coaching might be the answer. Let's talk and see how I can best help you.
More Info About My Practice
I like to have an initial consultation where you can share your concerns and get a sense of how well I understand you, your needs, aspirations, frustrations, and goals. Effective psychotherapy is about a good "fit" between two people, as well as education, training, and experience. During our meeting, we will chat about your particular situation and you can raise questions about psychotherapy, coaching, or how I work.
I am not on any insurance panels but instead, prefer to work directly with you. If you need to use your insurance, or there is a true financial need, I will do my best to have us figure out a fee that is workable. During the course of therapy, I will provide you with a monthly statement that contains all the information required by your insurance company for reimbursement.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
After 30+ years of being a therapist, I have come to think of the therapeutic process like doing a jigsaw puzzle. With a good partner-therapist you can explore while looking for links; build strategies; create a positive mindset; develop ways to strengthen abilities to enhance your puzzle-solving skills, and find pieces that fit and further your efforts. You and your therapist begin to see parts of the puzzle you didn't know belonged to the big picture- maybe they were off to the side or in the corner. Pieces become easier to recognize, and a bigger picture begins to emerge. Talking about old wounds, painful experiences, and some relationships can also cause painful feelings and memories. The right therapist will follow your lead and go at your pace. As a result, you can become more knowledgeable, self-aware, confident, and have better relationships and interpersonal skills. You will have more options for choosing a response or action. Some of the positive outcomes of therapy are increased self-esteem, greater clarity, emotion management, the ability to take reasonable risks to create positive change, feeling more connected to yourself, and less anxious or depressed.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Choosing to be in therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness; of being human, not flawed; and an affirmation that you are worthy.
When you choose to take care of difficulties that are interfering with self-esteem, mood, relationships, attaining career or personal success, or any other disruption, you are saying, "I am worth feeling better; I am resilient enough to survive some emotional pain in order to grow and reach my potential; I am willing to develop a trusting relationship with someone who wants to hear what I'm about and is compassionate, well-trained, experienced, and skilled enough to help me get on with pursuing the life I've always wanted."
What happens in therapy is that the process itself- largely through the relationship between you and your therapist- re-wires the brain in important ways, creating new neural pathways that enable you to achieve self-acceptance; develop positive ways of behaving, thinking, interacting; enable you to better tolerate distress without falling back on foodsubstancescompulsive shopping or other self-destructive or self-defeating patterns; and the ability to reflect upon your feelings, thoughts, intentions, and motivations. You have found some strength, hope, and curiosity and can tolerate temporary uncertainty in the service of allowing self-discovery to unfold.