My Approach to Helping
We therapists have the best job in the world. To be able to help someone connect with their own power to heal from within is exhilarating. The learning process for me is everlasting and I strive to be the very best therapist I can be through continued education, above what is required. But I learn most from the people I serve, as they let me know what is humanly possible.
It is my simple goal to view your world through your unique vision and provide an atmosphere of trust where you feel welcome and accepted unconditionally. This allows the therapeutic alliance to take shape and provide the foundation for healthy dialogue and interventions tailored to your needs. As we grow in trust, the door to insight and healing is opened.
I will walk beside you with the goal of looking at life with a new set of eyes, focused on whatever thinking patterns exist in conflict with your values and dispel them. We will do this through mindful awareness exercises, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and various cognitive techniques intended to address past traumas, depression, anxiety, communication issues and self-compassion.
I am trained in EMDR trauma therapy and for couples counseling, I have completed Level III Gottman Method Couples therapy focused on the emotions of relationships and healthy communication.
I supervise the development of other therapists as well, through Adaptive Supervision in Counselor Training and Interpersonal Process Recall.
More Info About My Practice
I currently accept self pay clients at the rate of $95.00 - $120.00 per 50 minute session. I do file insurance through Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC, Aetna and Magellan, Cigna and Humana and will happily provide documentation for those who choose to file their own insurance.
I offer early morning as well as evening and Saturday appointments.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Do not engage in therapy without having answered these questions about yourself: How effective have my own attempts to cope with my problems been? How long have I suffered and at what cost to my family, myself, my future potential? Have I attempted to deny the problem or ignore it? How successful have I been in that effort?
If we don't click my feelings won't be hurt and I will happily refer you to another therapist. Most of all, be receptive to the process of therapy. It has been proven just as effective as medications and there are no side effects. It is crucial to healing that one understands the power of the therapeutic alliance as the healing force in therapy. I have been successful in establishing that alliance with the vast majority of clients. I exercise patience and mindful awareness so that clients will observe and integrate those qualities into their lives. We all experience pain but suffering is the result of resistance to that pain.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Choosing a therapist can be daunting. Coping with your problem is stressful enough. The uncertainty of establishing a new relationship is often the biggest obstacle to receiving help. It can be a profound relief to find someone who understands. I recognize and appreciate your struggle.
First, identify credentialed therapists, licensed by the official agencies authorized in the state. Interestingly, research indicates the effectiveness of a therapist does not necessarily correlate to experience, so newly trained therapists are not to be discounted. Speak with the ones you are interested in over the phone. A good therapist will be happy to talk to you.
Secondly, seek someone who will see you during times you can comfortably arrange within your schedule. Evenings and weekends are preferable to most clients. Some therapists, including myself, also offer early morning appointments.
Once you settle on a qualified therapist who can accommodate your logistical needs, meet with them to establish a therapeutic relationship. If he or she talks more than you do, does not appear to listen or be knowledgeable of your condition, then politely terminate the relationship. Be open minded to therapy but assert yourself if your needs are not being met. It is your life and relationships that are affected, so do not be shy if you don't get a good feeling on the first meeting. Not everyone is a match.