My Approach to Helping
In counseling the ultimate goal is to challenge you to examine what is truly holding you back from feeling free and make lasting changes that will help you live your life in a more authentic, balanced way. That feeling of free is different for everyone. For some it is happiness, for others it's connectedness or love or validation. Whatever it is that is contributing to you feeling stuck is what we will focus on in here. If you are someone who finds it hard to pinpoint just where that stuck point is, don't worry! Together we can work to identify any stuck points that might be lurking in the distance and bring them into the light.
I will work closely with you to understand what you are experiencing, to empathize with you through these moments, and to help you see these moments in a different light. Sometimes that means we examine your thoughts, feelings, insecurities, and guilt, and other times it means we examine patterns, cycles, relationships or past traumas. Regardless of what you are going through, I truly believe that counseling is a great place to unpack it all and really find movement, clarity, and freedom from what is holding you back.
More Info About My Practice
I work with adolescents and adults providing individual and couples counseling. My focus areas include anxiety, depression, couples counseling, communication, postpartum mood and anxiety disorders, work-life balance, and life transitions.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Counseling is here to help you identify the patterns in your life and in your relationships that are keeping you from feeling free, understood, and fully loved. Sometimes we hesitate to ask for help and allow someone to unpack our thoughts, feelings, and worries. It can be uncomfortable and puts us in a place of venerability unlike we have ever known before. That takes absolute courage and strength, hands down. Counseling is a wonderful safe holding space to challenge yourself and test the waters of venerability. What I say to clients who are on the fence about counseling is you won't know how strong you are or how helpful counseling is unless you put yourself out there and try. The only commitment you make in counseling is the one to yourself.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
When I talk with you, a new client, for the first time the number one thing I am looking for is to make a connection with you. Our relationship, the client-therapist relationship, is the most important aspect of our work together. It's so important for us to feel comfortable with one another, because without that mutual level of comfort and trust the venerability that is needed to accomplish our work together is challenged. Because of this, I recommend considering the following to help you make your decision on who to work with:
1. How are you feeling when you talk to this person?
2. Are there any triggers?
3. Are you sharing information truthfully? If not, what is keeping you from being honest with this person?
4. What is your gut telling you?
5. What is important for them to you know about you and what you are going through right now?
6. Once you are off the phone, how do you feel about the conversation?
Going to therapy can be scary, new and different so knowing ways you can find comfort in the "new" is helpful. Having a good feeling for your therapist is so important, don't be afraid to ask questions beforehand.