My Approach to Helping
I do not solve problems. I help you find solutions. Through a practical, and interactive approach, I help you identify dysfunctional thought and behavior patterns. Techniques used are eclectic, but are mainly focused on are insight, analysis, coaching, and humor. Together, we develop more effective, present-based ways of thinking. Over time, you are able to live your life with greater confidence, success, and joy.
More Info About My Practice
I have been in private practice for over 30 years. My philosophy is highly practical, and has been arrived at by living a highly varied life in which I've experienced, worked through, thrived, and survived many of the anxieties, fears, challenges, and losses that bring my clients into therapy. I've worked for profit-making organizations in executive positions - and quit in midlife to find a more fulfilling career. I've been divorced, and then had a long an fulfilling marriage. I've suffered illness and loss. I've lived around the world. And, equally important, my practice is informed by a literary and artistic sensibility - and a sense of humor.
It is said that in life, one never steps in the same river twice. I can teach you how to swim in life's changing currents, with joy and optimism.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
I've been in private practice for over 30 years. In my experience, the most important factor in choosing a therapist is the chemistry you feel with your therapist - what we in the biz call "the therapeutic alliance". It is not the technique that the therapist uses that guarantees the success of the therapy. You must feel safe with your therapist - safe enough to be vulnerable. You must feel that you 'speak the same language' so that you feel that you are heard. You must feel supported in the relationship - not alone with a disinterested stranger.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
We are all human. And none of us know all the answers. But life is a challenge. How can we face these challenges? By using our own strength. Therapy helps you find and utilize your own strengths. After all, it's not the therapist who makes us change. It's not the therapist who can act to change your circumstances. It is YOU. Therapy is merely an opportunity to examine your problems so that YOU can find ways to effect solutions. Nobody else can do this for you. So examining and owning these problems is the first step in solving them. That's not weak - that's the beginning of strength! After all, if YOU do not devote time and energy and will to your life - who else will?