My Approach to Helping
If you are feeling stuck, disconnected, or having trouble coping with anxiety or depression, you are not alone. You may be struggling to find balance in your life, or noticing that attachment and trauma from childhood is impacting you presently. Perhaps you recently lost a loved one, are navigating a new chapter of life that has you feeling anxious, or just feel like you are stuck in a rut and need someone to talk to. I work with adults and teensadolescents on addressing anxiety and depression, unpacking past experiences, improving emotional regulation, building healthy boundaries with loved ones, healthy self-esteem, and more.
As a therapist, I provide a challenge-support environment where I encourage you to reflect and explore your values while providing empathy, warmth, and humor. Therapy can be scary because we are asked to go outside our comfort zones, but growth stems from change. I utilize a myriad of theoretical approaches to find a style that works best for you. I utilize many different approaches to therapy and find the style that works best for you. I am transparent, honest, and center the client in the therapy process and my goal is to create an environment where you feel comfortable sharing what is working and not working about therapy.
For LGBTQIA+ identifying individuals, I provide gender and sexuality affirming therapy and can work with you on identity exploration, navigating queer relationships, or coping with the impact of stigma, discrimination, and bias. I identify as part of the queer community and am familiar with many of the stressors and complexities of queer life. My therapy office is an accepting and safe space.
More Info About My Practice
I offer in-person appointments on Mondays and Tuesdays at my office located in the Rancho Bernardo area of San Diego County. Our office is comfortable, colorful, and easily accessible. I offer telehealth appointments on Wednesday and Thursdays from my home office. Clients are always welcome to request both in-person and telehealth appointments as needed. Our in person offices follow local and state regulations regarding wearing masks. There is currently no mask mandate. I request that if you are feeling sick, COVID or otherwise, that you attend your session virtually until symptoms pass. Out of respect for others' health and safety, if I receive a positive COVID test, my personal rule is to conduct all meetings virtually until I can ensure a negative COVID diagnosis regardless of CDC or other guidelines.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Sometimes, we think that going to therapy should be reserved for when we have reached "rock bottom", are in crisis, or are really suffering. I believe that therapy should be a part of your holistic health plan--taking care of your brain is a part of taking care of your overall physical health. You do not need to be in crisis or severe suffering to benefit from therapy. If you are thinking about whether or not you should consider therapy, the answer is that you are probably ready to reach out and start the process.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Most often, clients share that their negative therapy experience was due to the therapist talking too much about themselves and not the client, the therapist seemed uninterested, or the therapist gave unhelpful or uncomfortable advice. While going to therapy might feel weird at first and there are times where you are asked to talk about vulnerable or difficult topics, it is important that you feel safe in the therapy space. If you are not feeling safe, heard, or feel you are being judged by the therapist, that is an important sign that it is time to find a different provider.
My goal is to create safety and comfort so you feel safe when talking about difficult things, or you feel able to say if you dislike something about therapy. The relationship and fit between a client and therapist is one of the most crucial and important factors in the effectiveness of therapy, so if you are not feeling like we are a good fit after we start therapy, that is ok! I would rather work with you to find a therapist who IS a good fit.
I also recognize there are concerns around therapists hospitalizing clients who share about self-harm or suicide. Therapists are mandated reporters if they have concerns that a client is going to complete suicide. I recognize that there are levels of suicidal ideation and hospitalization may not always be the best step. However, there are times where inpatient care may be helpful for the client. This is a decision that I make in collaboration with the client. If you have concerns or questions regarding my approach for suicidal ideation, please let me know and we can discuss this in a phone consultation prior to starting care. I want you to feel safe while you are working with me.