My Approach to Helping
I focus on two primary areas - relationships and couples as well as past trauma. In the process I also work with individuals and children. I focus on these two often overlapping areas because relationship problems and past trauma can and do harm multiple lives.
Couples I work with are often struggling with a lack of emotional and physical intimacy, they?ve lost respect and trust for each other, have little companionship or communication. And they often have frequent arguments about finances, sex, children, social media, etc.
Past trauma is all too often an underlying and untreated cause of relationship problems. Many people have ongoing struggles with mental health and substance use as a direct result. They feel stressed out, damaged, alone, confused, emotionally numb, can?t sleep or concentrate, have racing thoughts, have mood swings and anger issues, worry constantly. Alcohol or other substances may have helped to a point, but also cause other difficulties. They ?ve tried psych meds, therapy, substance rehab but nothing has really worked. They want their lives back but feel lost and out of control.
I help couples open up to each other, rebuild mutual respect, trust, and honesty, understand what?s not working in their relationship and why, help them come up with mutual solutions for their problems, and re-experience friendship and simple joy in just being with each other.
I help my clients identify and address underlying causes, work with them on eight aspects of wellness, help restore emotional and physical balance, and in the process help people regain their lives and experience a renewed sense of joy, inner peace, calmness, self-control, purpose, and meaning.
More Info About My Practice
I don?t necessarily focus on mental disorders. I focus on what?s happened to people, not what?s wrong with them. I also consider and help my clients explore other possible causes. I get feedback each session from my clients about how they?ve done over the past week, as well as how they think I?m helping them in each session. My clients and I track and work those results to make their therapy more effective. The therapy I provide is structured and focused on my clients initial problems. While we work together on new problems as they arise we stay focused on those initial problem areas.
The majority of those I?ve worked with over the years have had significant improvement, many improved 30 points or more compared to their pre-therapy scores in as little as 10 sessions.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am certified in and have specialized training, skills, and experience working with couples, families, and trauma. Trauma can be anything we have experienced in the past that still causes us problems now. Trauma is often an underlying cause of behavioral, relational, social, work, and health problems.
My Role as a Therapist
I am a facilitator and guide, offering knowledge and expertise to the people I work with. I help my clients regain a personal sense of peace, calmness, control, joy, purpose, and meaning in their lives.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Seeking therapy is never a sign of weakness. Rather, seeking therapy is a personal recognition that one has a problem they haven't been able to solve on their own and are taking positive steps to resolve it.
My View on the Nature of 'Disorders'
Disorders are often negative labels that don't carry any real benefit. I view disorders as symptoms of underlying problems. Too often disorders (symptoms) are the focus of treatment, ignoring the underlying causes. Doing so is a band-aid approach without any real benefit for the person with the problem.