My Approach to Helping
Because of some of my own life experiences, I was drawn to the field of helping others. I have a great capacity for understanding the pain and suffering of other people and I feel very much in my element when I am in session with people of all backgrounds and walks of life. I have empathy and I listen with a non-judgmental ear to others as they share their life with me. I feel it is truly an honor to be of service to others in the way of participating in their healing process. I feel I am able to work with most people as I accept others for who they are and where they are on life's path. Due to my own inner conflicts and struggles, I know what it can be like to be judged in a negative way. I have a lot of compassion for others' plight and being a therapist has been a dream of mine since I was a child. I have a natural intuition as to what people's needs are which makes it a lot easier for the person to open up and share.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
So I hear A LOT of people saying I went to therapy and it did not work. How many times did you go to see the therapist before you quit? Were you honest with the therapist? Did you really put in the effort to make a change? I use this example to people so they can understand what therapy is about: do you go to the gym for one hour one day and expect to lose 50 pounds and get healthier from that one trip? People do not see the need for a personal trainer because they "know how to work out." The ones that do get a trainer sometimes see amazing results. It is like a therapist we are not witch doctors or magicians. We do however offer a different perspective on your situation because we are not emotionally involved in the situation. A therapist offers a clinical view that is able to see all parties' viewpoints involved. It is a great way to see your/partner's/family feelings or perspective through a different lens so to speak. People are only trying to get their needs met and sometimes it is through unhealthy behaviors/coping mechanisms that they are doing this in order to avoid getting hurt (which is sometimes what causes more pain.) It is our job as a therapist to assist in realizing these issues and shining a light on them. It is not our job to referee nor change you. This is a misconception. If you are looking for a magic cure you are in the wrong place!
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
I feel that it takes a lot of courage to seek out help. If a person does finally get the nerve to call, make an appointment, and show up for it, they get very disappointed of the therapist is not a "good fit." It is like anything else in life, sometimes you need to try a couple of different therapists on for size in order to get the right one. Not every single therapist is going to be the right one for you, just like not every single, person is going to be a good fit for every therapist. It is great to take initiative to seek out the help the secret is not giving up until you get what you need.