My Approach to Helping
I want to see a full picture of you versus just the single, painful thing that brought you in. Do you have meaning? Do you have support in some sort of way? Do you feel known, respected and empowered? Are you resilient? Let's understand how you cope with challenges and help you do more of what works, less of what causes you suffering.
I'm interested in looking at your relationships--perhaps with your partner, your friends and family and ultimately with yourself. This is important because I see how you manage these relationships as integral to creating your reality. Together we can look where your relationships are satisfying, versus painful, and we can shift dynamics to help you achieve the life you want.
As part of seeing the full you, I want to know more about when you hold back, what fears and dreams you silently harbor. I'm going to offer you a safe place to open up and I'm also going to give you feedback when I think you need to hear it. I'm open to seeing individuals and couples/families as needed--as in the unit of treatment may shift as we go.
More Info About My Practice
I'm flexible and adaptable in my style. Some clients need to come in weekly or twice weekly. Down the road, some clients choose to taper off and come less often. I am also open to bringing in guests (spouse, sibling, parent, friend) who may offer insight to the client's work.
My Guiding Ethical Principles
Beacon Couple & Family Therapy
Dr. Phil Brown, LMFT
Rules of the Road?
Clients come to our offices with all kinds of notions about what it takes to make couples therapy successful. Regardless of the presenting problem, unless the necessary context and expectations are agreed upon by both client and therapist, therapy will likely fail. Consequently, the therapist’s challenge is to discuss principles and expectations about what constitutes “successful therapy.” However, before discussing what makes therapy successful, perhaps it might be useful to examine what we believe might make therapy unsuccessful versus successful.
How to make couples therapy unsuccessful:
1. Blame anyone else but yourself and avoid taking responsibility for your own piece of the problem.
2. Ignore the communication patterns in your relationship that make you both feel like you’re having the same argument again and again.
3. Assume that there is one correct view of the situation-- your view. After all, you’re a logical person and you’ve thought this thing through.
4. Maintain the belief that even though issues may have taken years to create, they can be resolved in a few short weeks of therapy.
5. Don’t bother to establish clear and realistic therapeutic goals.
6. Tell your therapist how to do therapy.
7. Maintain the erroneous belief that relationships are a 50/50 proposition, when, in fact, they are a 90/90 proposition.
8. Never complete the homework assignments tha