My Approach to Helping
Are you an LGBTQ individual who is struggling with not feeling accepted or validated? Is your relationship suffering?
Are you hard-of-hearing or a parent or family member to a hard-of-hearing individual? Do you experience struggles with microaggressions from intersecting identities and want tools to help process your experience.
I want to help you and I offer a free 15-minute consultation! You can ask me questions - calls and texts. My website has additional communication options.
I offer compassionate, client-centered therapy that is validating and affirmative. I want you to feel understood and heard. With my experience being a therapist and counselor, I have heard stories regarding clients not connecting with past therapists and I will check in with you as to how you feel about our work together.
I work as a guide to help you discover your inner-resilience and strengths. I am sensitive to your needs as everyone is different and has a special uniqueness.
My goal is to help you feel better in your struggles with life transitions, understanding of yourself, and emotions you're struggling with.
The therapy room is a way to express your feelings in a confidential space that is safe.
I offer encrypted virtual therapy that is confidential and shown by research to be just as effective.
I look forward to answering any of your questions so you can be on the path to enhanced understanding of self in a compassionate safe space, free from judgment.
More Info About My Practice
Validating and Affirmative Therapy has been shown to be effective in establishing trust. But research isn't necessary to understand why.
I present myself as I am in real life with a focus on helping you on your journey to self-discovery. I am a guide to help you develop self-resilience.
Please ask any questions. I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation, and you can also text or email me!
My Role as a Therapist
I am a guide for you to discover and strengthen yourself and process your feelings authentically in a validating and affirmative way.
I have traveled my own journey, and am not done traveling. I deeply respect you for your courage to come into a room and be willing to build an alliance with me, a stranger. You are courageous to have found my profile and I'm excited to help you!
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
"I'm afraid you won't respond to me and will just sit there without helping me."
People think of a therapist as someone who just asks how they feel and doesn't share feedback. Some therapists follow that style, but I give feedback and my interpretation of what you are saying to ensure I have understood you correctly. There's a myth that therapists have all the answers. No, we don't, but we can help guide you to find the right solutions. We offer a compassionate ear for your benefit. Some stigmas are a result of some therapists who haven't acted ethically and have created environments where clients are ashamed and degraded. I do not operate that way. Clients don't always get better from therapy, but my job is to ensure if there's not a benefit, to refer you either to a resource that would be a better alternative or to a therapist that would be a better fit.
"I'm afraid you will discover something is terribly wrong with me. I don't want you to think I'm defective."
As a therapist, I can guarantee you that every one of us has had a fear of being a bad person or defective in some way. The fact that you're worried is actually a sign that you're ready to try therapy. I don't believe that anyone is truly defective. It's a common distortion promoted by our society. If you're not worried about being defective, it's likely you're concerned about another area, and are seeking help for that. You've found exactly what you need by coming here and reading this.
"I'm worried I won't like therapy, and I'll be pressured to keep going."
Therapists need to be aware of when a client is not benefiting. There must be a willingness on the part of the therapist to ask questions. I inquire about how my clients are feeling so any fear of being stuck is alleviated. The process is courageous and the therapy space is at times a microcosm of the real world. So, I'm there to support you through times of difficulty and support you. There will be times when it feels scary and not comfortable. You can share that with me and I'll be supportive. I don't put pressure on people to keep coming. I believe the client determines when they're ready to end.
"I'm afraid of being vulnerable and not feeling safe in the room. Why should I come to you?"
I respect my clients and aim to provide a space of respect and collaboration on your process of enhanced self-awareness and resilience. We often fear being vulnerable, especially when we have been told our whole lives to keep our 'alternative lifestyle' out of people's faces, but being able to be vulnerable is actually an incredible asset as it allows us to grow when we aren't comfortable. We can experience true freedom and liberation from the burdens of shame and disappointment. We often fear what others might think if they find out we are seeking help. They may view us as weak or incapable, but nothing is further from the truth.
"Therapy can get so expensive. It really adds up. I don't know if I can afford it."
Those that are able to demonstrate the courage to face their struggles head-on, are the ones that are truly strong. Therapy is an investment as is anything else worthwhile in life. Fees are discussed during the initial consultation. The insight you will gain from a trained professional who targets your specific issues is worth paying for. You need someone you trust and someone who understands what they are talking about. You also want to be sure you choose someone who isn't going to pretend they know how to be affirmative when in reality they are tolerant and uneasy. I promise to never ask you ignorant questions and instead approach my inquiries from a place of curiosity, as I naturally do in my life. I am also an accessible therapist and one that respects your investment and sees it as the two-way exchange that it is.
"Maybe Now Isn't the Right Time?"
If you're struggling with the thought of thinking now may not be the right time, I can tell you from experience that there is NEVER a right time. The best time is now as the longer you go without receiving guidance, the more confusing the path can be, and I want to be able to help you on your journey! You deserve for things to lighten now, not later. You deserve to get to a better place personally and get the help you deserve. You deserve to start your journey of self-discovery today to make it easier to deal with the daily stresses of life.
"But I'm Still Not Certain!"
Please don't wait until tomorrow or next week. Studies have shown that waiting even 1 day is enough to talk yourself out of getting the help that you truly deserve in order to live the life of true freedom that you have always wanted.