My Approach to Helping
I am a group and individual psychotherapist specializing in childhood dysfunctional family trauma. Clients who are interested in this work usually have had prior experience with therapy and are seeking to resolve long standing stuck places.
I work from a very specific and effective model regarding my client's childhood that promotes deep and lastly change and healing. The work is experientially based and interested clients need to be aware that the work it is very emotive. By that, I mean that we do not just talk or intellectualize but rather our goal is deep emotional shifts.
My clients experience significant lasting changes in negative core beliefs, are able to reclaim intimacy, profoundly heal their relationship with themselves, gain a sense of movement and recovery, and reclaim a lost sense of joy.
The model that I use is based upon inner child work where my clients learn what is healthy v. unhealthy family systems and begin the process of "re parenting" themselves. Learning about this concept is an amazing journey.
My model is done within a group setting with peers and we start together in individual and move towards group. Our first group is our families and we bring those beliefs and experiences into all of our relationships. The first step is becoming aware of how our first 18 years of life can still run our present lives.
More Info About My Practice
The most important thing in therapy is to feel good about who you are doing the work with. Trauma and dysfunctional family work is very intimate and emotionally charged and being comfortable is essential.
My clients would describe me as funny and very direct as I feel there needs to be some soul in the therapy office. The work that I do is equally based upon professional training and personal life experience.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
I think good therapy has a beginning, middle, and end - especially trauma work. There is a process to therapy that is not unlike restoring a house. It can take awhile but should not be perpetual. If it takes us 18 years to be programmed by dysfunction, it is going to take some time to undo it in a good enough way.
So given that, I believe people can benefit from diving in and doing "the work" such as offered in my model in a good enough way. "The work" is a large umbrella term. I think the work is defined in the following questions:
"Have I reclaimed being fully loveable to myself no matter what?"
"Is the sky the limit or do I need to play it safe?"
"Is there a partner/soul mate out there for me?"
"Will things work out?"
"Will I be ok no matter what?"
"Do my needs matter?"
"Risk taking is how life gets lived."
"Am I a good person?"
"Can I fully live instead of getting through?"
These questions help clients reflect on whether deeper work might help them.