My Approach to Helping
I enjoy showing you your own divine potential as fully loving, whole, successful beings, and helping you gain insight, make peace with your past, process and overcome your challenges, whether dealing with daily stressors, or childhood traumas, anxiety, depression, attachment issues, boundaries, shyness, social skills, anger management, acculturation, co-dependency,addiction, chronic illness, and spiritual difficulties, break the old patterns and exploring new ways of being, thinking, and behaving that allows you to reach and maintain the fulfilling life that you want and deserve to have. Together we can turn your wounds into wisdom.
More Info About My Practice
*Weekend appointments are available in Both locations (West Los Angeles and Sherman Oaks)
*I do offer 15 minutes complimentary phone initial consultation!
*Out-of-network provider for PPO insurances (Reimbursement provided through superbill, dependent on policy benefits.) Please inquire for further explanation.
*I do offer sliding fee scale!
*Cash, check or credit card are accepted forms of payment.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
As an experienced premarital counselor, and a certified domestic violence counselor, I enjoy working with young adults, couples, through the hardships of their relationships. I support victims of abusive relationships, help them find clarity, cultivate the skills they need to leave abuse behind and live successfully on their own. I'm dedicated to helping abuse survivors nurture happy and healthy relationships. I help them identify relationship warning signs, nurture assertiveness, and develop self-esteem.
As a former school counselor, I enjoy working with individuals who need guidance through the transition of finishing high school and starting college.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Many clients report chaotic, troubled childhoods and traumatic life experiences. Together, we will find a way to not only overcome your childhood abuse, traumas, and many other challenges and obstacles but to use what you learned from them to become extremely successful in your adult life. Together, we can turn your wounds into wisdom, and empower you to have a more full-bodied and successful existence.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
I believe everyone has the right and the potential to live a fulfilled life. Every once in a while, something in our lives goes badly enough that we wish we had known at the time what we know now, so we could go back and do things differently. However, dwelling on the past is something that many people don't like to do; they are eager to wipe the slate clean and start fresh on a path toward a brighter tomorrow. But pushing forward without a backward glance can be hazardous to our mental health.
I am not saying we should live in the past. Our entire life story, not just where we are going but where we've been, deserves our curiosity and attention. Getting past an emotional injury is like getting past winter; the only way past it is through it. Imagine if you broke a bone and then, not wanting to dwell on the injury, went out and played soccer the next day. How well do you think that would go for you and your broken bone? It's a ridiculous thing to do, yet people do it all the time with wounds that aren't physical. Instead of constructively wallowing in the bad stuff that happens to us, we try to shake off an upset as soon as possible so we can get past it. Emotional injuries need time-outs, just as physical injuries do. We cannot process emotional wounds if we are busy focusing on the future, trying to shove aside any thoughts about the bad stuff that happened back then.
Emotional maturity requires that we acknowledge where we've been by pondering the past. We are only as old inside as the wounded child who sustained our oldest hurts: neglect, ridicule, criticism, sexual abuse, etc. If we hide our personal history from ourselves by insisting on focusing at all times on the present and or the future, we can't help that child heal and grow into the adult we are meant to become. We will be stuck in life. Trauma feelings cannot be repressed or forgotten. If they are not dealt with directly, the distressing feelings and troubling events replay over and over in the course of a lifetime, not only of neurotic-spectrum problems such as anxiety, depression and relationship issues, but also of physiological health outcomes.
My Role as a Therapist
As an authentic, genuine and transparent therapist, it is my responsibility to be able to provide a comfortable safe environment and establishing a warm, caring therapeutic culture, and be able to facilitate the awareness, growth and psychological development of my clients. As I help my clients make peace with their past, I will provide them my full support while they are walking and taking the steps along the path towards their goal.
My Therapy Focus
Sometimes we carry old beliefs around, unknowingly, that don't serve us anymore. You have old beliefs and experiences that tend to push you in a certain direction or color your thoughts in a certain way but they are not necessarily serving you anymore. It's good to take a step back and think about your beliefs about life. Ask yourself, Is this true? Or am I just limiting myself with these beliefs? Sometimes you have to unlearn the things that you believe to be true. You do not have to see the world the same way you have always seen it. Just because it was true in the past, does not mean it is true today, and just because you learned something one way does not mean you learned it the best way.
I will promote a non-judgemental self-awareness that enables you to develop a unique perspective on life. To raise awareness, and be able to transform your destructive unconscious emotions to a fully present existence, being able to recognize and break your old patterns that undermine your success and happiness and create new pattern by practicing new behaviors.
Do not let yesterday's beliefs dictate the story that you live out today.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."
Martin Luther King, Jr.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
Going through my own life challenges, whether it was dealing with my own struggles through acculturation and relationship issues, or seeing a loved one going through their own difficulties in life, made me realize that we are not here on this earth to rise above life. We are here to walk through the mud. The magic is in the mess. We learn our lessons by going through intense life experiences, not by skipping through them. Everyone struggles, it is as inevitable as breathing. Though this may be true, there are those whom struggle more than others. Struggles forge stronger people, any success that is worthwhile is built through struggle. Hold your head up high and soldier on!
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
Therapy is a place to explore your feelings and learn about yourself. It is a place of self-discovery. It is a place to find out how you have become tangled up and a place to learn how to untangle yourself. It is a place to gain a better understanding of your inner world and your relationships. This process is what people come into therapy to learn.