My Approach to Helping

Are you struggling to rebuild trust after an affair? Are you finding that no matter how hard you try, the thoughts of the two of them together won't go away? Perhaps you wonder if there is even hope for your marriage. Maybe you have been working very hard to rebuild but find the pain and fear too overwhelming. Are you deeply worried about these things? If so, I'd like to help.

It is important to know you are not alone. Most people feel rage, have nightmares, and find themselves having fantasies of revenge. Many people work hard trying to rebuild trust, and like a rat in a maze, find themselves bumping into dead end after dead end. There are reasons for this. Marriage counseling for affair recovery can help.

With affair recovery counseling, I can assist you and your spouse in turning things around. There are no easy answers, but you can learn and master the principles that can guide you toward healing and ultimately toward greater calm and intimacy.

In addition to private affair recovery counseling I run a group for those who have been betrayed. A group is currently forming in Fort Collins for Fall 2017. Please visit my website or psychology today and search under support groups for infidelity. The group is called Beyond Betrayal.

More Info About My Practice

I've been practicing marriage and family counseling for 20 years. I am licensed in both Georgia and Colorado. I have office hours in Fort Collins and Denver, Monday through Friday.

I conduct online therapy as well. Consider the advantages of online therapy: greater confidentiality and convenience, cost effective (no travel time, no babysitter to pay), the same exceptional quality of service and clinical effectiveness my clients have come to expect. You can visit my website to learn more about my work and about how easy and effective online therapy can be.

On the Fence About Going to Therapy?

Often times one spouse is open to marriage counseling while the other is unsure or uninterested. Here are a few tips to consider if you are the spouse who wants the help:

1. Talk to them and tell them what you're feeling and what you'd like to do about it.
2. If they are still not interested, do some research and find a therapist who specializes in working with couples.
3. Schedule your appointment and invite your spouse to join you.
4. If they are still not interested, attend your initial session and see if you'd like to continue individually.
5. If you do, see if your spouse will attend just one to two sessions. Your therapist will be better able to help you if they do.

The Duration and Frequency of Therapy

The industry average for people in therapy is 6 months or 25 sessions. I often see a shift in couples within the first 2-4 months. This can happen if you are coming together or just by yourself.