My Approach to Helping
What matters the most to me is helping my clients achieve the goals that are important to them. It could be making sense of and deciding what to do about a relationship. Dealing with a stressful job situation. Addressing persistent, troubling mood issues. Or adjusting to a sudden, unexpected situation. It can be incredibly helpful to look at your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and see how they relate to each other and their impact.
I offer a straightforward and engaging therapy and, if we're working well together, it's not unreasonable to expect some initial improvement within a relatively short period of time. Over the years, I have noticed that clients who play an active role in their therapy, especially working on issues between sessions, tend to be more successful. Let's set up a first meeting, sooner rather than later, so we can get to know each other and see if the fit is right based on your needs and my style.
More Info About My Practice
As a couples counselor, I help couples resolve conflict by learning how to address their divergent needs through workable compromises. Couples achieve specific, behavioral agreements in the areas that are hurting their relationships, which may involve money, sex, social interaction, in-laws, parenting, or household responsibilities. I establish clear guidelines to improve communication, which involve not bringing up the negative past, avoiding the blame game, and never threatening to leave the relationship as well as techniques to stop toxic interactions in their tracks. A core premise of my work is that almost any problem in a relationship can be resolved as long as couples are fully committed to each other; and no problem can ever be resolved if the parties talk to each other disrespectfully or aggressively.
For couples who are ambivalent about their commitment to the relationship, I offer Discernment Counseling. The goal is to help couples arrive at greater clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of the problem in the marriage and each person's contributions to it. This is a short-term process (1-5 sessions) which aims to determine which of three paths a couple is on: (1) Status quo of the marriage, neither divorce nor working in therapy to improve it; (2) Separation or divorce; (3) a six-month commitment to couples therapy with divorce off the table and with the possibility of putting it back on at the end of the six months.
As a career coach, I work with individuals experiencing problems with managers, supervisors, co-workers or subordinates. I strategize with clients on improving their job performance, managing workplace conflict, and navigating organizational politics. I also help with career transitions, job search, resume development, and interview skills.
As a dating coach, I work with individuals to help them develop a committed relationship. This involves creating online material for dating apps, managing the beginning dating process, and examining how to constructively deal with the conflicts that naturally arise in any meaningful relationship.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
While many believe that therapy has to be long-term to be effective, that is often not the case (especially for couples). I generally see clients between three and six months, longer or shorter depending on the complexity of the issues and how close clients are to reaching their goals. Many clients over the years, after pretty much achieving what brought them to therapy in the first place, come back for occasional tune-ups.