My Approach to Helping
Your life may not always be as meaningful and satisfying as you want. I believe that change is sometimes achieved by finding peace with the past and sometimes through the development of additional skills and sometimes through both. Learning how to be happier and more effective in your life involves identifying resources and using your strengths to achieve the meaning and happiness you want. When you make a commitment to respect yourself you have taken the first step.
More Info About My Practice
Sometimes the pain or trauma of past events live on in us. You cannot change the past but you can change how those experiences impact your life. Your "rear view mirror" is only good for showing where you have been, it does not show where you are going. Old thoughts and beliefs may no longer serve you. The future that you define is the one you will achieve.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
The best changes I have seen come from psychotherapy involve a better ability to see yourself accurately and use the skills, both old and new, to reach your goals. So often we keep negative messages close and they reduce our ability to move forward. Self criticism can come from any time in our lives and become a difficult habit to break. Being accurate instead of negative allows you to see yourself clearly and make the changes in yourself that you desire.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
When I think about people considering therapy as a way to accomplish change in their life, I am reminded that seeking change to make one's life more meaningful is not a reflection of weakness but an indication that the future is a reflection of our intent, values and skills. A willingness to refine your intent, verify your values and develop your skills is a willingness to continue to grow and become the person you want to be.