My Approach to Helping
I am a calm, nurturing, and gentle presence, but you won't know that until you come in to see me. No one wants to be judged, so I create an environment and relationship where you don't feel accepted, however, I do have opinions. I am straight forward. As your therapist, I will let you know what I need from you to reap the benefits of therapy and what you can expect from me. Being real is absolutely necessary in order to have a healthy therapeutic relationship and healthy inter-personal relationships. In our work together, you will develop a better understanding yourself. You will feel confidence about the choices you make and learn skills to create safe and secure relationships.
Problems in relationship originate from an insecure attachment due to natural life events, abuses, or traumas. We learn to live and be in relationship with others based on those experiences beginning from birth to present. A child's strategy (defense mechanism) in relating to people at the time probably worked. But now as an adult those might not work so well anymore. When situations trigger past problems or traumas, you may resort to the strategies you knew at that young age but now those old strategies don't work and that's why you are stuck. In my work with you, I will help your mind and body understand that those events are in the past, and you will be able to respond as the adult. Through this process you will develop a stronger sense of self. When this happens, you will have a strong core and you will understand current situations in a new light and feel empowered and be able to make changes. You would feel confident communicating, being yourself, and getting your needs met in your relationships.