My Approach to Helping
When people are in dire circumstances, like poverty, they keep moving, keep hoping the next place will be better. This is what happens when our relationships are in poverty; we give up and move on, hoping it will be better next time. Sometimes we just give up and wont even try again. Have you ever known anyone like that?
When you are developing an emotionally wealthy relationship requires walking through the minefields. Not all of us are brave enough to do it, that is what the divorce rate is so high.
And, if you do not know how, who can blame you?
But once you discover how each trigger contains important, valuable, and precious pieces of information about your partner that changes everything. These parts of your partner are the very things that drew you to them in the first place, but they have been hiding behind layers of dynamite. Fearing the explosions, you have tiptoed around trying not to set off the blast only to lose your partner and your love in the process.
Once you hold the treasure in your hands, providing the safety and nurturing that part needs to come into the light of day, you discover the fun of playing with the person you fell in love with so long ago.
That is the payoff for taking the risk of walking through the minefield.
Having been divorced twice myself, and then finally figuring out how this marriage business works, I can tell you honestly what works and what does not work. Yes, I have training and experience as a therapist, but I also have a lot of life experience that has informed me about marriage and life in ways that help you find the life you have been longing to find.
More Info About My Practice
For many years I attempted to do therapy the traditional way. What I do now is outside the box. Call me for a free consultation. I will explain to you how my process works, and why it is so transformational for you, and for your relationships. You can't beat free. What have you got to lose?
I prefer not to use your insurance, though I will cooperate with what you need. Ask me about why I think it is not in your best interest.
Credit cards accepted.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
In actuallity, Therapy does not change who you are; it changes how you respond to yourself and your world. Clearly you can not be a different person than you are! In fact, therapy is about unveiling who you really are and empowering you to be and share the amazing person that you are with your family and the world.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
The thing that excites me now, as a therapist is when I see the context of peoples lives changing and they stop getting in their own way. Suddenly they find themselves responding differently in situations that used to be a big problem for them. Often people will come in after a number of sessions and report that the people around them are changing in response to how they have changed. That makes all the hard work of therapy worth it!
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Not all therapists are the right match for you. We are individuals and what might work for one, might be a disaster for another. Taking the first session to discover if we are a good fit for each other is key to starting the relationship out on the right foot. Even then, it takes time to develop a trusting, open relationship. What I offer is not a quick fix, and I am not here to tell you how to live your life. Though if you are willing to take the leap, I will help you figure out how to experience your life and relationships in a more satisfying way.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
How long therapy takes is completely up to you. The success of the work we do together is dependent on your ability to do what is required of you. Whatever blocks you have to meeting your goals, I will help you to address, but only you can take the steps to remove them. Taking ownership of your own life is the first step to transforming your life. This can happen in a matter of weeks, but more most people it can take a year or more. That depends on how much you invest in the process, and how deep you want to go. It's up to you.