My Approach to Helping
Sometimes life can feel like life has gotten away from us or has lost real meaning. We may begin to doubt ourselves, feel weak or perhaps cut off from others. When these things happen we are likely to experience negative emotions and moods such as depression, anxiety, anger, or isolation. Therapy can help us to make a new, and more effective effort to regain a sense of purpose and meaning. Therapy offers a chance to re-discover our strengths or develop new strengths and skills. I believe we each have the potential for happiness and well-being. In therapy we try to tap into our resources and strengths that have become hidden or repressed.
Each person is unique and therapy must match their needs. I use a range of techniques, knowledge, and experience. I share these with my clients as well as my support. I believe in their ability to make the changes they need to make. If they can begin to rekindle a belief in themselves, then the knowledge, techniques, and experience that I bring become the starting point for them to develop their own, new path to healing which can sustain them through the immediate situation and beyond.
I also have a PhD in Interpersonal Communication and have found through my research, practice, and teaching that being able to understand and express our feelings is often at the core or increasing personal and relationship issues. Understanding and communication are a formidable pair. Therefore I emphasize communication with individuals and with couples as an essential tool.
I am also a Diplomate Jungian Analyst. My Jungian orientation to psychotherapy means that I believe that we have within us the energy and the resources that can help us change and develop into fully integrated and whole human beings and creative personalities. The Jungian approach helps us to become aware of the complexity and the depths of our own psychologies and experience a relationship to problems and solutions that sometimes lie beyond our conscious abilities to know and work with them. Jungian work is not for everyone but it is a powerful and engaging option.
More Info About My Practice
Relationships. In couples therapy, I focus on communication, safe emotional expression, meeting personal needs, and growth. I believe successful couples happen when two people engaged in their own personal development and growth come together to create a relationship. Knowing our own values and needs we then discover how we can integrate them with those of our partners. Couples' therapy is about individual growth as well as repairing a relationship. Everyone succeeds when couples come to therapy with a positive attitude respecting both the individual and the relationship.
Life Transitions. I also work with people engaged in major life transitions such as retirement, moving, or job changes. This type of change can lead to depression, anxiety, or self doubt. Therapy can help to re-discover our core values, strengths, talents, and desires that guide decisions and are the true compass leading to a meaningful and hopeful future.
Men: I have developed a specialty in men's issues. Sometimes men find themselves feeling disconnected from others, misunderstood, or confused by communicate their feeling and emotions. Often, my work with men is about finding ways to understand and safely express their feelings and avoiding frustration and anger. Through self-knowledge and increased personal and interpersonal skills, positive action and effective solutions are possible.
Women: Women often find their own true voice and strength by discovering and developing a positive self-image. They can find, through therapy, a positive send of their won abilities and worth. They also can develop a safe and creative way to express that positive sense of who they are.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Regulating our Emotions. Our contact with our own feelings and our contacts with others become more real and better integrated into our lives when we can finds ways to safely recognize and express them. When anger or any other emotion becomes overwhelming, our actions, including communication become servants of those emotions. Through self-knowledge, awareness, and developing interaction skills, we can regain control of our words and actions. We can them make them work for our own benefit and the benefit of others. Increasing verbal and nonverbal skills is definitely possible with positive results that can be seen every day.
Jungian psychotherapy. I also work with people who wish to find their own deeper nature and the often unconscious aspects of our own psychology. For those who seek this kind of approach, we may work with dreams, imagination, and insight directed at understanding the inner workings of their psychology and how they affect our outer lives. This approach, like my general approach, begins where the client is and does not impose a specific technique or interpretation on them. Rather, it is a strictly collaborative process of inner discovery and growth with the ultimate goal of reaching a fully integrated and whole personality.