My Approach to Helping
I believe in quality relationships! We can't do life without them! The people we keep close to us are the people we do life with. They are the people who provide a reflection of how we view ourself. If those in our inner circle truly know us; they value us (even if we are different from them)! We are able to walk in confidence knowing that that we are loved and valued; however, if those closest to us are critical and trying to change us; we question our own idenity.
I truly believe we were ALL created unique! We each bring a complex mix of our gender, race, religion, sexual preference, ethnicity, economic status, spirituality, ability, age, education, culture, and social class. We NEVER fit in the boxes society suggests we live in (at least I never fit in any of the boxes). Your unique perspective and experience is a part of who you are and it deserves to be valued!
One truth, regardless of whether we are in a relationship where we are valued or in a relationship where someone is trying to change us; we create predictable relational patterns. I am a firm believer that if you trade in your "current relational M & M, you are just going to replace it with another M & M, maybe just a different color".
In healthy relationships we learn to recognize our own response to triggers. Our reactions are an indicator of our relational hurts. No one is perfect!!! We all have brokenness from the past that is carried over into our current relationships. The great news is that we can choose to use our reactions as an opportunity for growth! I would love to be a part of your relational journey!
I have been in private practice for over 20 years and my practice is primarily referrals from former clients. After 15 years of practicing, I went back to get my doctorate so I could be current on what we know about healthy relationships from research. I am also a REAL person. I have survived divorce and single parenting! I have lived in a blended family (and survived) since 2003. I have four daughters who are all married and I am a grandmother of nine grandchildren! Regardless of our past failures (or the failings of those we have been in relationship with)...you can find relational health!