My Approach to Helping
\"Marco, I don\'t know if I am happy after our meetings; yet I feel I have more grace... and it\'s not a bad feeling at all.\"
I help clients who experience depressive symptoms, relational issues (e.g. dependence and co-dependence), and problems with intimacy (emotional and sexual) and self-esteem. Often I deal with people that don\'t suffer from anything specific but simply experience problems finding what they want in their lives.
I am proud to say that, over the years, I have developed my way of doing counseling, which is based on each person\'s individual struggle to find meaning and love in this complex world.
Too often we underestimate the influence society has on our desires, goals, and aspirations. By neglecting this influence, we open the door to loneliness, unhappiness, and sorrow. Ultimately, I think my practice is honest and effective because I can see people, understand their struggle and help them find their unique path in life.
More Info About My Practice
Why my practice is unique?
I think it is because I rely on a deep comprehension of the dynamic of the human psyche.
I rely on Girard's mimetic theory to analyse people's inner desires and models, and when we work together we try to find what is authentic in our desire... and what just belongs to the world.
Imitation is natural and inevitable. What is unnatural is the way consumerism exploits this natural tendency and makes us forget who we are and what we really want.
For this reason, I also follow a minimalist lifestyle (not to the extreme, though) trying to rediscover values and habits that nowadays are out of fashion.
What is masculinity? Femininity? what is love, passion, intimacy, sexual pleasure? Why pain? Why psychology often cannot find answers? I have been trying to answer these questions for several years, and, even if I do not have definitive answers, I have deep insights that I like to share and discuss with my clients. Their unique feedback constantly helps me improve my theory as well as my practice.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Intimacy, sex, love
self esteem issues
finding what we really want
My View on the Nature of 'Disorders'
Even if I have a psychoanalytic background, I do not think the main cause of disorders nowadays is the individual upbringing.
As much as we all have our individual issues, traumas (quite often) and idiosyncrasies, I think most of our interior discomfort comes from a society that - for the most part - has lost its soul.
There is so much social pressure that we do not know anymore what its sources are. Thus, we end up blaming ourselves for not being self-confident, proactive, successful or adaptable enough. We all need to take a step back and take care of who we really are and what we really desire. OUR life, love, success often depend on being able to do that.