My Approach to Helping
We need two things in a relationship to make us happy: enough closeness and (ironically) enough space. Sometimes one partner feels the need for connection more so than the other partner - through talking, spending time together, and sex. The other partner may be more focused on their work, solitary hobbies, and interests outside of the family. Sex is frequently flip-flopped. For instance, he may be obsessed with work and won't put the phone down, but really wants to connect in the bedroom. She may be focused on sharing feelings and being together as a couple and family, but feels no sexual desire. This struggle leaves couples feeling angry, lonely, and disappointed. If this sounds like you, we can help! The good news is that couples often feel much better after 6 sessions and can frequently change their whole dynamic after about 16 sessions.
Couples therapy or marriage counseling means having a neutral person coach you to see what you are individually contributing to maintain the power struggle. The power struggle is a necessary stage of marriage where each partner shrugs and decides, "I guess I just married a selfish person." But we all must go through a cycle where we fall in love, fall out of love and finally learn to love again. We eventually must give our partner love in the way they define it, which causes us to grow into more wholesome and well-rounded people! Your needs both emotionally and sexually can once more be met in abundance. The Awakening Center - Helping Couples with Love and Sex - has offices in Greensboro and Raleigh with plans to expand to Chapel Hill and Pinehurst.