My Approach to Helping
Do you feel your marriage slipping away? Are you disappointed with the state of your present relationship? Do you feel disconnected from your spouse? Do you sometimes question whether to stay in your relationship?
For most people, when there are problems in their marital relationship, it can be hard to function which might include stress, difficulty focusing or sleep problems. You don't have to suffer in silence, couples counseling can help. Couples who work with me enjoy that they can get the support that they need to rebuild trust, have better intimacy, and improved communication. By starting the journey with couples counseling, I reveal proven effective skills to couples so you can experience a better connection. In addition to couples counseling, I provide fun interactive workshops and a powerful group therapy experience. Start the process today! You can schedule an appointment on my website.
SPECIAL NOTE: New clients can be seen within a week.
More Info About My Practice
Better Together Couples Group:
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Do you have any friends who are in happy fun relationships? Or are most of you friend single or even worst on the brink of divorce? This can start to affect your psyche and misery loves company.
Better Together Relationships is a 10-month group where you will have the opportunity to work with me in a small group setting. This group is for mature committed couples who miss the spark from the early days, newly committed couples who want to start off well, and couples experiencing upheaval who want to reconnect. This group is for you if you miss the connection that you used to have, you feel your relationship slipping away, if you are tired of fussing and fighting all the time, or you are tired of the yelling and slamming doors. The group is not for couples who are good with where things are in their relationship, couples who have it all figured out, or if you do not want help.
This 10 session course will not just fix what feels broken but together we will create a foundation for a lifetime intimate relationship! Designed to focus on the entirety of the relationship, couples work with one another to explore issues that create conflict in the day to day living of a partnership. You will learn how to talk and tend to the relationship while deepening conversation and intimacy. Each 2-hour session includes education, didactic exercises, and practice for skill building.
Our work is designed for every age, ability, and orientation. Become closer to your partner - at the kitchen table, in the bedroom, on the phone, after a fight, all the time - re-establish trust, friendship, and commitment.
-Turn a negative home environment into one where fondness, admiration, and love are the norm.
-Learn the skills to fight fairly and constructively. De-escalate conflict and reframe resentment so it leads to growth for both of you.
-Learn to understand each other's worlds - what excites us, brings us joy and helps us feel connected.
-Create a partnership where each person's dreams, goals, and aspirations are respected, understood, and honored.
-Understand the power of "we" in making room for the legacies, values, and rituals each person brings to the relationship.
-Explore sexual intimacy. How often are you having sex? Is it enough? How do you get the sex you want?
-Learn to maintain intimacy in a busy world with a busy life.
-Regain your faith in the future of your relationship and create the marriage you dream about
-Meets once per month for two hours on Tuesday from 6-8 pm
-Couples use the interval between meetings to practice the skills they learn
-Maximum of 10 couples per class
During the course, I will walk you through:
-Loving After Betrayal
Your participation represents a commitment to the curriculum and the process to build a successful partnership. If you commit to the course, you are responsible for the associated fees, whether you attend or not. Please make every effort to protect the meeting times for the course. It is important to respect your intention to improve your partnership and to keep family or business obligations from interfering with that intention.
At the end of the first group session, I will give you an opportunity to connect you with another couple for accountability and follow up after group. By the end of this group, you will know the road map for how to build a love to last a lifetime. You will have the opportunity to connect with other couples.
This couples group is only open to 10 couples, it will sell out. I only want to work with couples who are serious about transforming their marriage.
$250 per monthly group session - for some people they may say that is a lot of money. My response is: aren't you worth it? And what happens if you do nothing? What happens if nothing changes? Constant fighting? What is peace of mind worth to you? What could happen if you could be at work without constantly thinking "is my mate cheating on me?" Sleeping in separate rooms? Living in a sexless, passionless relationship? Divorce is expensive - research shows the average divorce costs $20,000 when you take into account the lack of combined wages, the decrease in your earning potential, and living in separate homes. This is a lot less than $250 a month. Cut off your cable bill or stop eating out a couple nights a week and you have your tuition.
The way I see it, you have two choices: you can try it on your own and hope that you can convince your mate to see things the way you do, or you can put your trust in an expert.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I enjoy working with angry distant couples. I have specialized skills in counseling couples after the discovery of a break in trust. Also, I have extensive experience helping couples have better sex. If you are questioning whether to stay married, facing lonely nights, or having frequent arguments, schedule your counseling appointment today so you can start receiving the support you need.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Do you sometimes feel like your spouse doesn't hear you? Most people do not know that there are certain trigger words that prevent communication from taking place. By working with me as your psychologist, I teach you effective communication skills so that you can stop having the same argument over and over again.