My Approach to Helping
The approach I use to help people is by finding out what they want out of life and what does success mean to them. Everyone has a story or I help them create a story about who they are and who they want to be in relationship to themselves and others. People learn that what they are doing has stopped working for some reason and need to make some changes. Success is different for everyone and I help people define what success looks like for them.
What I Usually Need to Know to Help
I need to know where a person has been in their life and where do they want to be now. We also want to know what are the specific changes the person or family want to make in their life so that they are successful and how do they define that success. Each person has their own definition of success and what it looks like in their life. Success in life for some is education, money, having a good job or a happy and safe home. Success can be as simple as being content in life with what a person has been given by God.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
If someone is "on the fence" about starting therapy, the frame of reference I use is fear. Here is a person willing to take a chance to even think about going into a stranger's office and sharing something very vulnerable. Sometimes it is the case that a person has wonderful support and believes that he or she is able to share their heart with a close friend or a family member. Some people are missing safe people in their life and that is where a therapist comes into the life of someone who is ambivalent towards therapy or is sitting on the fence.