My Approach to Helping
First, let me say that by acting on the decision to make meaningful change in your life you have taken your first, and biggest step in taking control of your life. Unfortunately, we humans are not born with the ability to determine how to cope with our emotions. During the course of our lives, each of us has worked out our own way of dealing with our feelings of loneliness, sadness, anxiety, fear, etc. Each person also learns ways of interpreting the intentions of people we interact with. These interpretations impact stress levels, life satisfaction, relationships and interpersonal/inner conflict.
I believe that meaningful change can only come about by gaining a clear understanding of who we are inside, what our beliefs are, and how we interpret the world and others. Our past has influenced our lives and circumstances but it does not have to define who we are today or what we can accomplish.
I seek to assist clients in the understanding of who they are, why they interpret things the way they do, and potential reasons why they respond to circumstances and others the way they do. Only after gaining this understanding can long-term, meaningful change take place. I also believe that each person needs to find their own "reason to get up in the morning". This can be viewed as a life purpose, life philosophy or guidepost. A therapist is a valuable resource for this exploration.
More Info About My Practice
I am trained in several programs designed for post traumatic experiences (PTSD), substance abuse, anger management, grief counseling, and effective coping skill development. I prefer to keep my client numbers limited. This allows me the time to spend on determining alternative strategies that may help clients discover personal insight and solutions that can make a positive difference in their lives.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
One area I specialize in is assisting persons who have experienced life-altering, emotionally-charged circumstances, and/or disturbing memories. I have successfully helped many military veterans with post-combat-related difficulties. My approach in this area is based on real-world experience and personal understanding of the realities of life in dangerous/emotionally charged environments.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
I struggled with this decision for quite some time myself. Throughout my life, I have found it hard to accept help from others. I believed doing so might make me look weak or out of control. I knew I wanted to help others but couldn't accept that sometimes I needed help/insight from others as well. I have learned to view counseling as a way to get new ideas for solutions to life problems and to see my life from the "outside in". In other words, outside of my own skewed view of my life. A counselor can see things from a perspective that is unique and uncolored by personal history and subconscious motivations. I see this perspective as essential when making good decisions that can potentially change one's life.