My Approach to Helping
I work exclusively with couples because that is where my passion lies. I believe wholeheartedly in the power of couples therapy and have seen for myself the magic that can happen when two individuals commit to finding the path back to each other. I am equally comfortable sitting with the anger and hurt, as I am holding the hope for each couple I work with. I am truly humbled to be a part of the process and would be honored to begin working with you.
More Info About My Practice
Currently, I am only accepting telehealth clients. This is a crazy world we are in these days and I myself was nervous about the idea of seeing clients online but I did not have much of a choice and found that it really was not as scary as I had anticipated. Once it feels safe for all parties involved, I will begin seeing clients in my office on the east side of Providence again and then, in October, I will start seeing clients in my new office in Cambridge as well. If you are someone who is more comfortable with in person therapy, you may want to consider starting with Telehealth and then, we can transition to the office once the time is right.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am certified by the AANE as a certified Neurodiverse couples therapist. Often times, when either one partner or both are on the spectrum, it impacts the relationship tremendously. That being said, there are specific tools that I can teach you that will help bridge to grab when it feels like you are speaking different languages due to differing neurological wiring.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
You are not signing your life away. If you give it a shot and decide it is not for you, you are not required to continue. You are always in control and can decide at any time that you do not want to schedule any more appointments. The bottom line is, you will not know unless you try it out. A lot of times, one of the partners in the couple is reluctant but often, as time goes on, they are either equally or more engaged than the partner who suggested therapy to begin with.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
If I had a dollar for every time a couple came into my office and told me about a negative therapy experience, I would not even have to work. One of the issues is that many therapists who are offering couples therapy do not have any specific training in this type of work. Couples therapy differs greatly from individual therapy and although those therapists mean well, without specific training, there is a good chance they will do more harm than good. My favorite is when couples (multiple of them) have told me that a previous therapist told them during that they should get divorced...during their first session! If you have had experiences like this, it is not a reflection on your relationship but rather an indicator of the lack of competency in couples therapy on the part of the therapist. I have extensive training and work exclusively with couples. As s result the majority of any continuing education training I complete is focused on this type of work so I am constantly adding to my toolbox and improving my skills.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
I am happy to answer any questions that you may have to create a space where you feel as comfortable as possible before starting. I recognize that starting something new can be scary and I am here to alleviate any fears you may have.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
Although I strongly believe specific training in couples work is necessary for success, probably even more imperative is that the chemistry be right between both partners and the therapist. If one client feels like something is off, for any reason whatsoever, it can sabotage the process. This is the reason I offer a complementary consultation. It is important to make sure that you both feel equally comfortable with me before deciding to work together.