My Approach to Helping
My clients are amazing and wonderful people who believe they aren't lovable the way they are. They judge themselves and berate themselves mercilessly. This dialogue of self-judgment and irritation is like background music. They don't even know it's playing most of the time.
In therapy, they learn to tune in to their self-talk. They come to understand how self-criticism and perfectionism were the only way to get some of their emotional needs met as kids. And they discover that as adults, they can get those needs met much more successfully by treating themselves with kindness, compassion, and friendliness.
I combine this insight-oriented therapy with practical skill-building, so that clients can experience the transformative power of receiving love and kindness from the person they are with 24/7: themselves.
When you spend all day, every day with someone who loves you, who treats you respectfully, and who is worthy of your trust, everything else changes. No longer needing approval from others, since you get all you need within, you are free to choose relationships that support you and nurture you. You are free to be your true self with others. Depression, anxiety, and addictive or compulsive behaviors naturally decrease.