My Approach to Helping
We all have strengths that can be used to adapt to, and often resolve our problems. As people discover these strengths, they light up with that "Ah-ha!" moment that energizes them and moves forward. I help you find these strengths, and to learn to use them effectively as you navigate your way through life.
We will find solutions by looking at how you approach problem-solving when adapting to life's challenges. This means learning mindfulness techniques that help you to see what is happening more clearly, and make better decisions when dealing with difficulties in life.
More Info About My Practice
Our work is about a collaboration and trust: Me earning your trust, and you seeing that the most therapeutic benefits happen outside of my office, where you practice what we discuss; we then process these real-world experiences, and fine tune your approach. Rest assured, I won't make you chase answers; when I have direct suggestions, I'll just tell you.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Many people tell me, "I've never done counseling before, so I'm not sure what to ask, or how it can even help." My response usually involves reassuring folks that part of the usefulness of counseling is the process of them being allowed to uncover what they are looking for. Far too many people wait until life is in the 'Red Zone' before seeking help. Please understand, it is ok to be uncertain about what you are looking for; it is my job to help you become clear on that, and this usually happens within the first one or 2 sessions.
You will learn how to enjoy success, and how to handle setbacks. The ability to acknowledge discomfort for what it is, then use it to overcome these setbacks is an important skill.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
If you are concerned about counseling, it's important to know that this is absolutely fine, even healthy. Because you don't know me, it may be difficult at first. It is my job to earn your trust, rather that happens quickly or gradually. Competent therapists won't be personally or professionally offended if you just don't feel the connection is working for you. A confident professional will be comfortable with your feedback and be willing to either offer some referrals and/or process the hesitation to see if continuing to work together could become more helpful.