My Approach to Helping
I start out with the understanding that we all do well if we can. My work with you will be to increase your capacity to do and be well. Together, we will create workable solutions to your issues and work towards creating the life you seek and desire. Sometimes that comes in the form of learning new skills. Other times, it comes from learning to be more comfortable in your own skin and life. More than reducing symptoms, it is about discovering and learning to live life in a way that works for you.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Just the decision to seek help can help. It can change our thoughts and feelings towards our specific situation. Just through deciding to get help, your life can start to feel more hopeful and you can start to feel more empowered. Often after their first session, many of my clients report feeling better about their life and are genuinely glad they chose to come in and see me. Starting to have hope that life can be better often enables us to breathe more easily and feel more at peace and more able to thrive.
The goal is to work together to create workable solutions for you and your life. What works for some does not necessarily work for others, so our work is customized to meet you and your needs and circumstances.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
Much informs the way any therapist works and my way has been greatly influenced by my own life experiences. Being in my fifth decade of life, a lot of water has passed under my bridge. Joys, sorrows, triumphs and loss, griefs and sadness have been a part of it for me, as they may have already been a part of it for you. The joys add color to our canvas, and our pains and wounds add depth and texture. We are tenderized by them.
My life cannot help but influence my work. My experience as a child, sibling, student, spouse, parent, worker, manager, and a human/spiritual being coupled with my knowledge and experience as a therapist influence the lenses through which I see, feel, and hear your life's journey. Through my own struggles, I am better able to comprehend yours. Our work together can't help but to make my next encounter, with you or another, that much more deep and nuanced. Growth, at times, can seem imperceptible, and yet it does happen.
My life is not your life. What is key to our work is your journey and your challenges. Although my experience serves me in working with you, it is your experience that is my focus when we meet. I want and need to know what meaning you give and make of your life. How does it feel to be you? What makes it feel better? Where do you find joy? what are your struggles?
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
Research has shown that the more frequent therapy occurs, and the longer it continues, the more benefit is obtained through it. That being said, therapy is an organic process and its path is not linear. It has its own movement, like waves upon a shore. Sometimes, more is needed more frequently, and at other times it helps to sit and live with the gains you have made before continuing in our work together. More often than not, you know best what you need. By working together and talking about how life is going for you, we can determine the best way forward.
My experience with clients usually consists of 8 to 10 sessions in a doable and consistent manner, followed up with less frequent, but still regular, appointments until they feel they have their feet under them and feel good about venturing forth, knowing I'm here if they need me.
Obviously, based on the nature of your issues, this process may be shorter or longer. We will both know when it is time to end.