- Does fighting seem to be the norm for you and your partner?
- Do small, everyday things trigger strong emotions that result in one person shutting down or leaving?
- Do you ever feel like your partner doesn't hear you or even care?
- Do you feel like the spark you once had got snuffed out by life's stresses, including work and kids?
When we perceive that our relationship is in peril, our brains undergo powerful processes that shut down our ability to function the way we normally do. Out of panic, we say and do things we later regret, and feel guilty yet justified for doing so. Though well-intentioned, our actions unfortunately end up spinning our partners into panic themselves, thus eliciting reactions that add to our already existing pain.
In order for any change to happen, we must first know WHAT is happening and WHY. To help couples do so, I use an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which reveals the force that drives each party's actions and reactions.
Love and romance doesn't have to be a thing of the past. Though you both have changed since your dating days, it is possible to rekindle the spark and fan aflame your desire for one another. It is possible to connect with each other at a deeper level. Hope is not lost!
If you want to transform this unending negative dance into an entirely new one built on hope, trust, love, and joy, I would love to connect! I am committed to set you up to successfully revitalize your relationship. Reach out today!
or Call Joanne B Kim, Associate MFT at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 38136
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love seeing couples find HOPE again. Most people reach out to a therapist when they've already exhausted all other options...Therapy is usually the last resort before they finally call it quits. When hopelessness is loud, I have seen eyes light up once people finally see past their partners' anger, defensiveness, or withdrawal to find FEAR of losing connection. Each party MEANS well, but feels helpless and lost. Once couples finally realize that their partners do CARE, the strong walls come tumbling down, making it possible for two tenderly loving, yet vulnerable individuals to tenderly hold and honor each other.
When the relationship is on the line and you feel out of control, even small interactions with your partner can be terrifying. I am here to create a safe space where you can both muster the courage to connect more deeply than ever before.