My Approach to Helping
After another fight that went nowhere, you may have awakened remembering things you had said or the awful things your partner said. The thought of divorce may have passed through your mind. Yet you instinctively know that your relationship is worth saving.
Maybe you feel a strong incentive to try because you don't want to do this to your children. Perhaps deep down you know you love your partner, but have lost that "loving feeling" just now.
Long hours, travel, illness or the illness of a parent, may have left you feeling of the other just not being there for you. After the kids came, you turned more and more to them and perhaps to your job.
If you feel that you are losing touch as you wake up at night, you are probably right. So let those restless nights or early morning wake ups get your attention. Change needs to happen.
In finding this website you have taken the first step toward healing. I want you to think of this as a 911 resource for your crisis. I want to help you. I bring over 35 years of experience in helping couples just like you. You can regain that 'in love feeling." Consider setting up an appointment today before the pain gets worse.
More Info About My Practice
I have been interviewed on CNN International and did a piece for the New Yorker.
I am the President of the New York Metro Chapter of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
My fee is $225 per forty-five minutes with a sliding scale for few couples with demonstrated need.
I offer extended sessions when couples want to seek in-depth intensive work for more immediate help.
I have been a contributing therapist for three articles in the Ladies' Home Journal in the "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" column.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist in NY, I work with couples of all ages, cultural backgrounds or sexual preference.
More important than that, however, I am passionate about helping you and other couples find new life in their relationship. I love my work. Nothing is more fulfilling to me than to help couples kindle the sizzle again.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
If by chance you are reading as your marriage is reeling from the discovery infidelity, I want you to know that I have specialized in this area.
If you want to rebuild your marriage, you will need to understand many things.
Don't try to find ways to deal with this crisis without seeking help from an experienced infidelity recovery expert. Knowing the dynamics and phases of this recovery can bring healing more quickly.
I also bring skills and experience to work with you if you, as a couple, come from different cultural backgrounds. As you strive to understand and appreciate the different expectations of your partner, you can learn to listen without judgment, you can learn to look for what works.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I have specialized in helping couples deepen their intimacy and discover the relationship that they have been hoping for.
You may have grown distant and not know why. You may have been hurt in the past and have never moved beyond it. Many couples begin to grow apart soon after they have kids by investing most of their time there and in work.
Trust that working through the conflicts that emerge from such hurt can make a world of difference in your time together. Gain confidence in your ability to hear or "get your partner." Develop habits of expressing gratitude.
I have focused often on helping couples recover from cheating or extramarital affairs. Reach out for help now to avoid future pain and to enjoy the rest of your life together.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I have increased my insights about the nature of marriage by growing in my own marriage. After over 40 years of marriage, I can say that we have a very satisfying relationship.
But let me assure you that like most couples we have had our challenges because we are two distinct personalities with many differences. We, too, have found marital therapy to be a godsend. The tools and skills that we have worked on have given me a tremendous well of insight into what makes relationships work.