My Approach to Helping
My wife, Laura Newman, and I are licensed marriage and family therapists. Working in the room together, understanding and empathizing with couples who may feel misunderstood, abandoned, disconnected or ignored is essential to our work. We know that conflicts around money, family, substance use, intimacy or infidelity can put a strain on even the healthiest of relationships. We push couples toward a mutually created place of safety and comfort. We are trained as PACT couples therapists, which uses a psychobiological, neurological, and attachment style foundation for focusing on how a couple is treating each other and how well they are doing at elevating their shared sense of joy. We are also trained EMDR practitioners, working with specific traumas experienced either in the relationship or earlier in life. Experiencing EMDR in the context of couples therapy can create new levels of intimacy and depth, as well as an improvement in relationship regulation from the resolution and exploration of upsetting memories. We are a powerful remedy for couples who feel stuck.
More Info About My Practice
We bring a unique point of view to both our insights and our very dynamic work in the room. We prefer a minimum of ninety minute sessions, weekly or bi-weekly, to foster really digging into the issues that are most important. Our fee is $225 per 90 minute session, and we offer evenings and weekends. We will provide a super bill for insurance and we accept credit cards.
We believe that coupling is at its core what two people can explore, not what they must change. Imagine feeling connected, making mutual agreements and experiencing intimacy and we will be there with you to support your path.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
We are a married couple who have successfully navigated the blended (or re-formed) family dynamic. We have gained a hands-on knowledge from our life experience that informs our work with couples and families. We are passionate about working with couples who are contemplating marriage, in a new relationship, married, or even contemplating divorce. We focus on inclusion, exclusion, shutting down, opening up and all the complex and intricate landscape of feelings and thoughts between two people. We try to break down the notion of being right vs. wrong and focus more on repair and soothing.
My Role as a Therapist
We believe in collaboration. Although we provide a unique perspective by having two therapists in the room, we believe that the couple is the expert. We are here to observe, question, reflect, contain and ensure safety to explore raw and sensitive issues. With two of us, we can maintain support for the couple while ultimately identifying differences and ways to live with those differences. We strive to return the couple to a place of caring for each other even in times of distress. We do not encourage couples to avoid fighting, we teach how to reach intimacy through conflict.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Successful therapy is a combination of readiness to explore, willingness to face fears and finding a therapist with whom you resonate. A safe and balanced space is essential for growth. We believe that co-therapy provides a different kind of perspective that fosters more of an ability to be heard. We are not stuck in a single approach for everyone. We are constantly exploring new techniques and bringing them into the therapeutic setting. We are playful and experiential. Don't be afraid... come meet us and see if it is right for you.