My Approach to Helping
I help stressed and anxious individuals and disconnected couples with strategies to help them feel more satisfied resolving personal and relational concerns. If you have tried to make the changes on your own and have been met with tension and frustration, I can provide tools for you to make positive changes. I support people in discovering more strategies to help themselves manage anxiety, discover previously hidden patterns, change the patterns, and have more control of their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and reignite relationship connections.
I know from years of involvement helping individuals and couples with relationship issues that you have the potential ability to make great changes in your life. If you are ready to do the work, you will be surprised at how skilled you are to discover innovative parts of yourself. The progression of therapy can prompt quicker more productive growth than you had before.
My clients are high-functioning, motivated, and committed to making changes in their life and I provide them with tools and methods to reach their potential on their own, many times with no need for further counseling. I work well with entrepreneurs, professionals, and busy people developing strategies to prioritize tasks, improve production, and restore stressed relationships. Because your time and money are valuable, I try to be as organized and goal oriented as possible.
Since psychology is continually evolving, I keep up with research and training in helpful strategies to improve individuals and relationships. I am a lifelong learner and see the benefits in my therapy sessions. I enjoy hearing how well my clients are doing and seeing their progress in treatment.
I believe that each one of us can be content in our lives. If you are ready to explore your obstacles and discover your best course of action give me a call or drop me an email. I have several offices around Greater Metro Atlanta or can meet you virtually via phone or video. I am so glad you are here and on behalf of Advent Counseling, welcome!
More Info About My Practice
We all know romantic relationships are hard work. Like a garden, the relationship needs repeated attention, watering, weeding, and fertilizing to keep it healthy. It is always better to invest in problem prevention by addressing it early than to invest much more later when there is a major breakdown. Regular maintenance and tune ups are the key to a great marriage to eliminate or minimize greater conflicts later.
Many times, a couple can address the basic maintenance and repairs on their own. Other times, however, even with sincere effort, professional outside assessment and treatment may be necessary to help the couple. Many people take more routine care of their houses and cars than they do of their own marriage.
Unfortunately, many couples wait until much damage has been done and negative relational patterns have become established. This weakens the prior strong emotional, verbal, and behavioral bonds, which contributes to layering of unresolved differences and resentment. Some researchers suggest that couples wait as much as six years before pursuing couples counseling.
Some couples have misunderstandings about what couple’s therapy is and how it works. This may inhibit many from obtaining counseling earlier because they may believe it is only for serious problems, such as addiction or affairs. This often leads to a final effort before a divorce. Other couples believe that they can drag their marriage partner to counseling so that the counselor can prove how right they are and how wrong their partner is.
I need two major items to occur in couples counseling.
Each person must be willing to look in the mirror and face his or her own contribution to the problem and be willing to identify ways to fix it instead of blaming the other.
Each person has made the decision to stay in the relationship, not just evaluate whether they should still be in the relationship. If you are undecided seek individual counseling first to determine your willingness to work in couples counseling.
So, what Exactly Is Couples Therapy?
Couples therapy is a type of psychotherapy or treatment in which a therapist with educational training and clinical experience working with couples, such as a Licensed Professional Counselor, helps each person in the couple obtain more insight into their relationship, resolve conflict more productively, and improve relationship satisfaction utilizing a variety of therapeutic interventions. Although the practice of couples counseling may vary depending on the therapist’s theoretical orientation, all couples therapy tends to involve the following common elements:
Identification of a specific problem (an affair, control, sexual misunderstandings, etc.)
Active counselor participation in treating the whole relationship, not just the individual.
Solution-focused, short term change-oriented interventions employed at treatment inception.
Clear formation of treatment goals.
You’ve decided to get counseling for your marriage. Now what?
First, let me congratulate you on being a great investor. You are making the right decision to invest in your relationship, which may pay dividends for your lifetime and that of your children and grandchildren. Second, see how can counseling make a difference.
My effective couples counseling utilizes the following strategies to help you resolve your issues:
Assists you and your partner to see your relationship more objectively.
Gives you both tools to identify and change dysfunctional behavior so you can choose healthier communication styles and connect positively with each other.
Reduces the tendency to avoid each other emotionally so a safe environment can be created in which you and your partner may communicate his or her thoughtsfeelings.
Improves communication. Effective couple’s counseling will provide you the guidance needed for utilizing the best tools for communicating. (Communicating with each other should never be abusive and each partner should feel the freedom to express his or her true thoughtfeelings without fear of ridicule).
Assesses each partner’s strengths and helps you and your partner build on those strengths to increase enjoyment in your relationship.
The above information is adapted from Benson, McGinn, & Christensen (2012). Common principles of couple therapy. Behavior Therapy, 43(1), 25-35.
Christian Marriage Counseling
If you desire Christian marriage counseling, I provide insights on a biblical understanding of a husband – wife relationship and would be glad to assist you in making the right choice for a Christian marriage counselor. Just because a person refers to herself as a Christian therapist does not necessarily mean she is Christian in beliefs and practices.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
"The purpose of psychotherapy is to set people free".-Rollo May
Someone asked me to comment on how therapy really can help. Here is my response.
I may be able to help you with the following concerns:
Are you struggling with depression, anxiety, lack of confidence?
Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or hopeless?
Is there just never enough time for things you want to do?
Does it seem you just can?t move on from a loss?
Do you feel like you just can?t seem to please others no matter how hard you try?
Do you need help clarifying wants, needs, or expectations?
Do you have concerns about past relationships?
Do you are being taken for granted?
Are you and your spouse having frequent arguments?
Are you dealing with infidelity?
Do you need help negotiating mutual satisfaction?
Are you bored or discontent in your job?
Are you dealing with burnout or job disappointment?
Are you having difficulty setting and achieving goals?
Do you have difficulty making decisions due to anxiety or procrastination?
Counseling seeks to provide the ability to:
Change self-defeating behaviors and habits
Manage stress effectively
Better express and manage emotions, including anger
Improve communication and interpersonal skills
Improve problem-solving and conflict resolution abilities
Increase confidence and decision-making skills
Relieve depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
Please contact me if you want some help.