My Approach to Helping
Belief in basic sanity drives my view of people and therapy. At the heart of the great struggles we experience in mind, body, and relationships, there is indestructible goodness -- let's call it an endless possibility -- to be found, trusted, and strengthened. Our work together will involve a fresh look at your suffering, especially those mental, emotional, and behavioral habits that have led to your extreme fear, anger, andor sadness when times have been tough. Through various awareness and insight practices -- including basic meditation instruction and unique training in self-regulation -- those habits can relax such that your pain and suffering can be more readily met and addressed. With that, confidence and perspective can grow in new actionable directions. In addition to 30, 60, or 90-minute office and HIPAA-compliant VSee video sessions, outdoor walking sessions can be arranged. Scheduling of sessions is most flexible on weekdays, with some evening openings. Call for a free 20-minute phone consultation.
My Role as a Therapist
When I've asked people how and why our work together has been helpful, two answers have stood out: "You weren't afraid of me, didn't judge me" and "You had confidence in me, didn't quit." My intention as a psychotherapist is to point you to your inherent good sense and to help you recognize the workability of any and every situation you encounter -- throughout the weeks or months we work together, and for the rest of your life when our work is done. The success of that work depends ultimately on your fearlessness and confidence, but in the beginning, may depend upon mine. For a while, you may not trust yourself or me. For a while, I may have more confidence in you than you do. That's perfectly ok, normal in fact. Please be assured, fearlessness and confidence will soon enough be recognized as already and forever yours.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
Psychotherapy is best viewed as a catalyst for the discovery of your wisdom, and a temporary container for its development. What's the duration and frequency of therapy? You'll tell me. Here are a few sample scenarios:
1.) Sometimes people with pretty stable confidence hit a rough spot that has them questioning their purpose and beliefs. They may need help integrating a loss or venturing a new direction. Three or four 90-minute sessions and they're ready to terminate our work together.
2.) Some people with chronic pervasive suffering seek therapy with high motivation. They arrive broken open and determinedly curious. They soak up the goodness of 60-minute sessions and move quickly to every other week or monthly sessions, then maybe a few 30-minute check-ins per year.
3.) Some people experience a nagging low-level irritability, or, at the other extreme, devastating mood swings. They may benefit from shorter or longer sessions once or twice a week, sometimes for a couple of years.
I can help you decide when you're ready to terminate therapy. While there is never a need to terminate therapeutic connections that continue to be beneficial, there is likewise no need to continue therapy beyond its usefulness.