My Approach to Helping
We are all constantly narrating our own life stories, making sense of things as they happen to us. What we tell ourselves about our present & future is very important because we tend to live it out. We want to make sure we are not simply absorbing old, critical voices from our past and repeating them in our own heads in the present! To live our best lives we need to expect the best from ourselves: setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-care and kindness to others, and giving ourselves credit for what we do well. A good counselor can help you stop the negative self-talk and practice self-confidence.
I combine counseling methods (such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for anxious and depressive symptoms), coaching strategies (what do you want? what is in the way? what are you willing to do?), and presence-based mindfulness to treat each client as a unique human being.
More Info About My Practice
I enjoy working with couples and have helped many people move from barely speaking to each other to real intimacy (sometimes for the first time!). I trained with John & Julie Gottman and teach the principle that beneath every complaint that we (or our partner) make(s), is a deep desire or longing. When we can identify the longing, we have the opportunity to have our need met and to increase intimacy.
I have experience treating individuals, couples, and families dealing with the challenge of Bipolar Disorder. I enjoy this work!
I have an interest in serving LGBTQ youth and adults. Reach out to me if you are out there!
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
In my view, therapy is a wellness profession. That means it aspires to be preventative; to help clients cope with any present issues AND to prevent future ones. I have seen my own therapist for years and continue to do so on a regular basis. I know that I will have a regular time to process events from my life, make sense of them from a constructive perspective, and practice more intentionality in my own living. This helps me live the best life (and be the best person) that I can!
I have often been awed by the courage and honesty clients share in dealing with their own issues. Weak people simply would not commit to the work of therapy! Choosing to make counseling a part of your life means you are willing to open yourself up and take responsibility for what you can control (yourself).