My Approach to Helping
Have you experienced trauma? Rape, assault, childhood abuse, neglect, combat, something in the line of duty, or a traumatic life, in general? If so, call me. I can help.
Trauma affects everyone differently: Some people can't stop thinking about what happened: Nightmares, fear, intrusive thoughts, or "on edge" all the time. Others feel shook to their core: Self-doubt, shame, guilt, hearing voices, thoughts of suicide, being a perfectionist or workaholic or alcoholic. Maybe you blame yourself even though you know it wasn't your fault. Or, you lead a "double life": What you show people vs. what you really feel inside. Relationships seem impossible. You repeat the same problems and can't stop. Maybe you feel broken, like you can't be fixed, but it's not true. You can.
Here's the thing: I like to say no one comes to therapy because life has been too awesome to them and their problems are too easy to fix. No, everyone coming to therapy has been through something and it is something they are struggling facing and figuring out. Things can be better, it just involves hard work and blood, sweat, tears, and facing your fears. And, usually, people need someone guiding them and pushing them with this; it's hard to do on your own. Life-changing therapy will be deep, intense, and painful. It is not chit-chat or coffee talk. But, when you're done, you'll feel better.
Some people have given up hope and think therapy can't help them, but I don't think that's true. I think you have to find the right therapist. I'm not always that person, but often enough I am. So, if you come to see me, the first thing we have to figure out is what your problem is and if I'm the right person to help with it.
If you come to see me, you will find I will listen carefully, I will give you straight and honest feedback (even if it's hard for me to say and hard for you to hear), and I will help you figure out practical answers. I have a style that is warm, down-to-earth, humorous, and direct. I will help you drop your guard and challenge yourself.
In addition to individual therapy for trauma, I also run a group for survivors of sexual trauma. Contact me if you are interested in more information.