My Approach to Helping
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My approach to counseling is based on the most recent research in neuroscience. Essentially, since our brains are wired for relationship I believe that we develop and grow in the context of relationship. If you think about it, when life is hard we often depend on those around us to be that support until we can cross the proverbial rocky river of difficult life circumstances. When we have family and friends in our lives that are safe and approachable, we're inclined to process our struggles. Sometimes these relationships in our lives don't provide that safety and approachability that allows the space to work through difficulties. Most people that come to visit me have a "bridge" that is too narrow or wobbly to safely travel to the other side. Maybe your closest relationships aren't open to hearing about your struggles, or maybe they just don't understand.
I see the counseling relationship as that bridge, or at least a helping hand in building the bridge you want. It's important for me to understand your experiences and how they have impacted you. These experiences become the lenses in which we view the world from. When I see through the client's lens and understand their world, the struggles inherent in life can begin to be organized and processed so that goals can be reached.
Symptoms that my client's express are exactly what I am looking to understand. For example, if someone comes to me with anger, my goal is not to redirect the anger or get rid of the it, but to understand how the anger serves and protects the client. In some instances, anger helps keep people and relationships at a distance because relationships have been hurtful in the past. In other situations, anger is the only way a person could get their point across. When we understand how our symptoms serve us, we can make a transformational shift in how we approach life.