My Approach to Helping
With a BA from Harvard and a Ph.D. from George Washington University, I know that the quality of our relationship is the most important factor for a successful outcome, according to growing research evidence. It's more important than any theory about therapy. I will work to create a caring, empathic, thoughtful relationship with you, so that we can work together to understand your feelings, patterns of relationships and any problems that arise. My choice to become a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst was a good one, as I enjoy the work very much. I am dedicated and passionate about finding ways to be useful to you in solving your problems. Together we can make a difference in your relationships and your work life, as you learn more about what is causing you trouble. I am available both in person and by phone, FaceTime, or Skype in case you cannot make it into the office because of illness, traffic or too much work to spend extra time driving. I also am licensed in five states, making it possible to work with you in DC, MD, FL and CO, in addition to Virginia Beach. I can speak with employees of the federal government anywhere in the world.
More Info About My Practice
I have a sliding fee scale, ranging from $150-$250, depending on income, and am willing to begin therapy at an even lower my fee for students and people with other good reasons. My office is private and secluded, and I do not share it with anyone else. I also have many years of experience doing individual and couple therapy, psychoanalysis, and supervision, both in person and using phone, FaceTime and Skype for therapy. I am very comfortable with all these ways of working.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
High anxiety level. I am able to provide an atmosphere that is calm and thoughtful, helping people to cope with various kinds of stress and upset. As we think together, a steadier frame of mind develops over time and people feel much better as they cope with the inevitable challenges of life.
Difficult relationships. I am good at helping people understand more about unconscious communication and how it operates in all relationships. We can discuss it in individual therapy or analysis and also you and your partner can come as a couple, and we can figure out more about the unconscious messages you are sending each other.
Low mood and depression. Low moods that make it hard to do the things you want to do and get what you want to go are a big part of my work. Many people feel discouraged by the hard knocks of life and trauma of various kinds--either childhood trauma or something terrible that happens when you are already grown up. Recent trauma makes it necessary to reorganize your thinking about many different people and even the way you thought the world was. It even takes time to get out of the state of shock. There is a good chance that I can be helpful with your recovery.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
Good psychotherapy will provide a sense of balance and steadiness that can make you feel more comfortable with yourself and other people, too. Your confidence and self esteem should grow, and it will become easier to use your talents creatively and more efficiently. Some of your relationships may deepen and you will improve your ability to create new ones. Good relationships with people that you love, and deep interests in your work or hobbies, are the most important things in life. I believe I can be useful to you on your journey.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I have been very privileged to know many people in a deep way, as they have shared their most intimate feelings and their lives with me. I have learned and grown from these experiences and am grateful that I have been helpful for most people who have consulted me. In those cases when I was not useful enough, I tried to learn more.
When I decided to become a psychotherapist, and later on to do the many years of training needed to become a psychoanalyst, too, I had no idea how enriching it would be for me personally, and how it would help me on my own journey. I have learned that deep relationships are helpful for all of us.