My Approach to Helping
When starting a new job or looking for a partner, everyone tells you, "just be yourself!" But what happens when that simple advice feels impossible? When anxiety, trauma, depression, or shame keeps us from fully knowing ourselves, let alone being able to show that to others?
Working with a therapist can help by giving you a space to break down what is holding you back from fully connecting with yourself and others. In talking to someone who will listen without judgment, you get to know yourself differently. Your story of hurt can be retold as a story of resilience.
I am open-minded, affirming, and I believe that change happens best when your individual values are respected. My approach is warm and compassionate- with plenty of humor as well.
More Info About My Practice
When we work together, I will use both cognitive behavioral and psychodynamic techniques. This means we can focus on raising your awareness of how your thoughts and feelings are impacting your life, as well as finding insight into how these patterns came to be. In the end, it will be all about identifying what's helping you be you, and what might be getting in the way.
I have special training in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Interviewing. Let me know if you have any questions about what that means, I am happy to talk more about it!
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
A really wise teacher of mine once told me that we can look at psychotherapy as medical or educational. A lot of the world thinks of psychotherapy as falling under the category of medicine...which can be alright because it means your health insurance might help pay for it...but it can also be limiting. In the United States, you seek medical help when something is wrong with you and then you follow some prescription that has been identified to work for your ailment until the problem is resolved. In my view, therapy might be something you do until your immediate problem is resolved, but it will never be quite like visiting your medical doctor because the "prescription" will always depend on your unique expertise and thoughtful participation.
I tend to see psychotherapy as working better if we think of it as self-educational. When we're seeking education, we expect there to be a process. There's a lot of knowledge already in the world that we can be taught, but our education also depends on our reflections, critiques, and integration into other things we already know. In most educational settings, we are asked to participate and collaborate. Through this process, we expand our minds and experience. So, in therapy, you'll be doing that...but the subject is YOU. And through this self-education, you get to know yourself better, which gives you more choices about who you want to become. I think that can be pretty exciting.