My Approach to Helping
I truly believe that everyone tries the hardest they can to meet their own goals. But sometimes, people come up against roadblocks they didn't expect or feel like they can't overcome. Sometimes, circumstances in life stand in our way, and we can't see a way around them. Sometimes, we're forced to adjust to changes that we didn't ask for. Sometimes, we can't stop getting in our own way, and sabotaging the little positive ground we do gain. Despite our best efforts, we're human, and sometimes, human doesn't seem good enough. Strong enough. Capable enough.
You've survived a lot, but sometimes, you don't feel like a survivor.
As a therapist, I see myself as acting like a lantern in the dark. It's up to you to find the path that works best, but I can help light the way.
I have a trauma-informed practice. This means that I recognize all the ways in which life's challenges, big and small, can be carried with you, affecting you in ways you often didn't expect. And with that recognition comes a commitment to practice in a different way, a commitment to collaborate with you, to ensure you feel heard and involved in your care, and to ensure that our work, whatever it looks like, is always in service of the goals you set.
More Info About My Practice
My office is located in a healing arts center, which also contains practices such as massage therapy, mental health medication management, meditation, acupuncture, and herbalism. While I do not actively partner with these other businesses, many people find that these other practices may be helpful additions to therapy.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Primary areas of practice:
- Disability and illness
- Women's issues
- Relationships and communication
Other common areas of practice:
- LGBTQ+ and sexual identity
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Negative experiences in therapy can range from uncomfortable to downright traumatizing. People are often at their most vulnerable in a therapy office, and even small frictions or disagreements can feel and be larger than they would be otherwise. Most of the time, these transgressions are situational or accidental. On rare occasions, they can seem willful. Intentional.
Either way, you might lose your faith in that person as a helping professional. And one thing we know about therapy, from countless research studies? We know that your relationship with your therapist is the single biggest predictor of how effective therapy is for someone.
I can't promise I won't ever do something accidental or situational that has a negative impact. But the most important aspect of my practice to me is building a relationship with you in which you feel safe, and heard, and have trust.
I have a trauma-informed practice. I regularly check in with my clients, both through conversation and through specific, evidence-based assessments, about how well the relationship is going. I communicate regularly with my clients, and always respond with a collaborative approach to overcoming any barriers to therapy. And, if my style isn't a good fit for you, I will work with you to find someone who is. Because ultimately, finding a therapist that works for you and can give you the results you need is the most important thing about therapy to me.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Our culture tends to treat mental health and medical health as completely separate beasts. If someone breaks their leg, they usually aren't expected to "walk it off," or to "just distract themselves," or to get through it with just a handful of ibuprofen and family support. All the willpower and love in the world won't fix a broken leg.
Yet all too often, if someone is struggling with sadness or worry or fear that won't go away, or that overpowers them and prevents them from living their best life, "walking it off" or "getting over it" is exactly the kind of attitude they are met with.
So what do you do when "walking it off" doesn't work?
You recognize that you may not be able to fix this all on your own, and you get help. You talk to someone with special training around your concerns. Someone impartial, professional, who acts within a specific ethical code and uses evidence-based practices to work with you, as an ally.
Needing help doesn't make you weak. It makes you human.