My Approach to Helping
"We are all much more simply human than otherwise, be we happy and successful, contented and detached, miserable and mentally disordered, or whatever." ~Harry Stack Sullivan~
As the quote suggests, I believe that one finds mental health in meaningful, connected relationships with others-our parents, partners, children, friends, siblings, and therapists. I bring warmth, humor, and honesty into my therapeutic work, and act as a support and guide as you work to improve areas of your life that you are inspired to change. I focus on growth and reparation, not pathology. I have a broad range of experience with all ages and ranges of problems, and can offer comprehensive treatment to children, adolescents, adults, couples, families, and groups.
More Info About My Practice
Although I am an out-of-network provider, please be aware that depending on your family's insurance plan, many families receive reimbursement for 50-80% of the cost of the therapy session directly from their insurance plan. Each person's plan is different, so please call your insurance company directly to inquire about out of network benefits for outpatient therapy. I offer convenient evening and weekend hours.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
What inspires me to continue to work in the mental health field is growth, change, and reparation. I have witnessed incredible life transformations of people who were truly motivated and committed to improving their lives, repairing broken relationship ties, and seeking forgiveness and atonement infrom relationships with others. I have seen people come to peace with their lives as they are, seek greater understanding of their thoughts and choices in life (both productive and unproductive), increase their effective and empathic communication, and learn active ways to cope with anxiety, depression, grief, mood swings, anger, and jealousy. I believe in the power of relationships as a catalyst for change, and conduct a significant portion of my work as marital, family, parent-child, sibling, and group sessions, to complement individual sessions.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Making the decision to come to therapy is not an easy one. If someone is considering therapy for the first time, they are generally feeling an intensifying dissatisfaction with their life, their relationships, and their choices, and a growing urge to take the risk and change it all for the better. When considering the struggle around beginning therapy, I always think of the quote from Anais Nin: "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom". If you are considering therapy, you are at the brink of such a risk. Think of other times you have taken risk. Did it pay off? Did the experience (positive or negative) make you a better person in the end? Is it worth the initial discomfort if it pays great dividends?
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Many people come to the initial consultation carrying fears of how their therapy will progress, often colored by negative therapy relationships with others. Some people felt judged, criticized, not listened to, or left to feel alone with their problems in the room. I encourage people to openly communicate the positive and negative experiences they have had in prior therapy relationships, and this is one of the most important questions I like to ask in an initial session. It gives me clear feedback about how to progress with each person. I believe that therapy is as much about fit as it is about theoretical orientation. Research indicates that people improve in therapy based on their belief that the therapist is present and can help them, above and beyond all other means, including the theoretical orientation of the therapist. If you have had bad experiences and are considering therapy again, I commend you for your courage and your continued hope for change. I would encourage you to take care in choosing a therapist that feels like a good fit for you, and be vocal about what you need from the therapy relationship. Far too many people suffer in silence in a therapy room. Speak up, so people may help you. And if you feel that the therapist is not meeting your needs, keep seeking that good fit!