My Approach to Helping
Imagine a therapeutic process that is collaborative and stimulates your brain to move out of its emotional status quo; when engaged you will recognize what causes your sense of feeling trapped in the pain fueled emotions. If you are reading this, there is a good chance that other possibilities for healing have been exhausted and you are just tired.
Are you facing struggles with your relationship, sexual trauma, gender identity or sexual desire? You have come to the right place. In creative, therapeutic and soulful ways I will work with you to find alternative solutions for issues that create obstacles to better living.
When there is an emotional roadblock it is hard to keep moving, growing and believing that there is a light at the end. You come from the best in you when you are willing to look at the parts of you that create the roadblock. The relationship with the self informs how you relate to others.
I engage you with innovative tools that are used to enhance a sense of safety so you get to the internal resources that are buried in the depths of your psyche.
The goal of the work is to unveil that which is hidden; respectfully understanding that when parts of you go into hiding, your brain creates a necessary protection so you do not continue to get hurt. The protection keeps you in a place of heightened anxiety about what you know is there and do not want to see.
Your interior emotional pain can be understood, integrated and released. Action, accountability and conscious changes are all part of the process. This is a dynamic therapy that fosters an alliance rather than reliance. I like to think of this process as quite magical. You are the alchemist. In literature, alchemy has the ability to turn one element into another. For example, turning dirt into gold. Therapy is the ability to turn the emotional darkness into a lightness of being.
This is a differentiation and grief-based therapy that fosters the actualization of the self no matter what the issue. We all cope with a sense of loss; no one escapes it. Disappointment, anxiety, depression, self-loathing and sexual desire are affected by the sense of loss and ultimately affect an internal sense of wellbeing.
What you might like to know is that the people I work with have said that I am challenging, insightful, caring, creative and have created a safe environment where they are able to face their darkness and meet their internal light.
More Info About My Practice
Therapy is a commitment. If you would like to speak with me for a phone consultation before you make an appointment, please reach out. It is good to have a sense of the person you will be seeing before you see them, especially since it is not based on a referral from a friend or a physician. I do not work on a sliding scale, however every insurance plan works differently. I will do what is necessary to make your experience with the insurance company as easy as possible.
Forms of payment are cash or check. Paypal, unfortunately, is not an option for payment.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
Finally, a place where you can take a breath, take a minute and focus on the self. Therapy allows you to concentrate on what hinders you from knowing and following through on your intentions and quests. When people have experienced trauma or loss, the experiences linger and affect the way we think, feel and access emotions. Change how you relate to what is presented; you break the cycle of reactivity and find your internal power.
When people come into my office, one of my first comments to them is ?You think its just you who walked into my office. Actually there is a crowd in here. You are not alone. Your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, friends and work acquaintances are all here. Usually, this gets a smile. Even with my couples or in groups, they all know that they walk around with the potency and power of family history.
We will concentrate on the ways in which your emotions hold you hostage and you will be given specific tools that give you the key to emotional freedom. You will learn to diffuse anxiety, self soothe when stressed and follow through on goals and desires. When the emotional imprisonment subsides, you will be able to soothe yourself, know that what you think represents your truth, verbalize and stand by your truths and handle stress without falling apart or disappearing.
My Therapy Focus
How you think about your issues and the impact they have on you is important because your thoughts create the reality in which you live. I focus on listening to how your thoughts narrate and guide emotional responses, how they fight to be heard and what you do when you choose to listen or to ignore what you feel.
It seems to me that people know what they need and they know what is wrong. What gets in the way of growth and fulfillment of the self is when what is known about the emotional pain is ignored. If what has been avoided is acknowledged, the problems that have been rooted in the lack of acknowledgment will become dislodged and can no longer be disregarded. Two things happen here: an internal dilemma occurs and the fight begins. Healing happens within the context of the fight. It is an honorable journey as it is intense and fosters growth, change and self-possession.
I want my clients to move into the dilemma that is presented when they know what they need to do and yet can only remain in the stagnation of their pain. I see that people need a sense of safety, collaboration and alliance in order to create change, especially when they are in crisis. This is what stands in the way of breaking the stagnation. I understand how difficult it is to have a healthy collaboration with another without losing the self. When people can do this, they are on the way to being differentiated and not merged.