My Approach to Helping
Having trouble getting along? I can help.
At the center of your struggles, is a relationship. The relationship may be with another person, an organization or more importantly yourself. So if you're not getting along, you need better relationships skills. I teach effective relationship skills.
Improving relationship skills may seem like an obvious solution if your troubles involve another human being. It may not seem so obvious when it comes to the relationship with yourself. To better understand what I mean, simply listen to the things you say to yourself all day. Are you being kind to yourself? Would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself? Treating yourself well is critical to a relaxed life.
The good news is learning to improve your relationships, whether it be with yourself or someone else, are the same. So what you learn in therapy with me will be applicable to every area of your life. If you improve your relationship skills, you improve your life.
Struggling with relationships causes you to be anxious, stressed and worried. So you could use some help with learning to do what I call "regulating your nervous system." I can teach you how to regulate your nervous system reducing anxiety. Less anxiety improves relationships.
My practical, no-nonsense approach to your life's biggest challenges will give you hope for the future. You will come away from our time together with a way of being in relationships and living your life that actually works.
More Info About My Practice
I have a concierge practice. That means I keep my practice small so I can give my clients the attention they need. Unlike other practices, you don't have to wait until your next session to get some help. I'm available by phone, video conferencing, email, or texting. We can touch base between sessions for whatever amount of time you may need.
My clients have my cell phone number and I answer my phone. Good customer service is important.
I stress privacy and confidentiality, so I have an office in my home. You don't have to go to an office building and enter an office with a sign that says "psychotherapist" on the door. You don't have to sit in a waiting room with other people may know you. I work for myself and by myself so anything you share with me will not be shared with any other person or organization. As a licensed professional counselor, I have what is known as "privileged communication." That's the same level of confidentiality that medical doctors and attorneys have.
My regular sessions are 45 minutes in length. I schedule sessions at the top of the hour. So that 15 minutes gives you time to leave before the next client arrives also protecting your confidentiality. And it gives me time to go to the bathroom. :-)
The fee for my 45 minute session is $200. You can pay me with cash, check, or credit card. You can also use your health savings or flex spending account. The money you spend on therapy can be written off your taxes as a medical expense.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
If you're not happy with how your life is going it's because the way you're living your life doesn't work. In other words, you were poorly trained. Good skills equal good results. So so the challenges you're facing aren't going the way you want them to because of the training you received. Our time together trains you to face your challenges and be successful because you learn new skills.
How you were raised combined with the nonsense our culture teaches you about how to live a happy life gives you an ineffective skill set to approach very difficult issues and every life has difficult issues. Our culture promises easy answers for complicated problems. That's simply not possible. Human beings are complicated and the problems they create are complicated.
Our culture wants you to believe that there is a way to live a simple, uncomplicated life. So the answers generally supplied in most self-help circles are simple. That's why they don't work. I will give you a framework and the skill set to face life's complex problems and resolve them in realistic ways. Life gets more complicated the longer you live. Having an effective approach to your life doesn't uncomplicate your life. It simply gives you a way to face your challenges and obtain the results you want instead of struggling.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
The main difference between a good therapist and a not so good therapist is how much personal therapy the therapist has had. The best therapists have 15 or more years of their personal therapy. Think about it this way. Would you go to a service provider of any type who does not believe in their service enough to use it?
A therapist's ability to help you is directly proportional to the amount of help the therapist has received. So when choosing a therapist, simply ask, "how much therapy have you had?" If there is any hesitation about answering the question, simply go to the next name on your list. I've been in therapy for some 30 years. I've experienced individual therapy, couples therapy and group therapy. I've been helped, so I can help you.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
A potential client often asks me how long therapy will last. Here's the way I answer that. Let's say you were calling me about dance lessons and you asked me how long it would take you to learn to dance. I would ask you if you want to learn to dance well enough to get though a recital or be a ballroom champion.
I would also need to know how much time you're going to practice. So how long therapy takes really depends on you. Some clients see me for only a few sessions. Other clients see me for years. You'll probably fall somewhere in between one and a thousand sessions.
How much time you spend time with me depends on your wants and needs. I don't have a cookie cutter approach to therapy. So each clients situation is unique. Given the stigma against going to therapy in this part of the country, by the time most people get to my office there's a lot of work to be done. So sometimes in the beginning, you'll spend more time with me than you will later in your therapy. Most clients start with an appointment once a week. It's important to reduce the pressure you're under as soon as we can and build up some momentum.