Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed

All of us are a journey to grow into the person we were meant to be. Sometimes that journey gets stuck or snagged along the way: maybe a relationship that's not flourishing; maybe a memory from the past that is haunting. Therapy is a skilled process of getting those obstacles out of the way so we can continue on the growth journey. so, instead of a person being weak or flawed, I firmly believe a person who comes to therapy is showing their vision for something better; and determination to achieve it. Really, coming to therapy is a sign of 'healthy discontent'

Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance

The clinical research is clear that the best variable to predict how successful therapy will be is how satisfied, or how positively the client feels about the client-therapist relationship is. That's because the relationship is one of the healing factors. We all remember the positive feeling of being known, appreciated and understood by a parent, special teacher, or other adult when we were younger. That person made us feel more empowered; the impossible started to seem doable; the problems started to feel like challenges; just because we knew someone else cared about us and wasn't frightened by the problem. That is exactly what good therapy provides: someone who knows you and accepts you and isn't frightened by the problem. A good therapist believes in you and provides possible solutions which you feel a little more courageous to try just because you know your therapist is standing with you.