My Approach to Helping
Therapy is a process that helps us grow. Experiences such as trauma in childhood, loss, or a relationship breaking up, can lead us to feel stuck in ways of being that don't allow us to reach our full potential. I work with people by helping them to see and transform the patterns of emotion, belief, and relating with others that have come from these difficult experiences and are holding them back.
For example, many people walk around with a sense that they are unworthy. This belief can cause a lot of emotional pain. My approach is to discover the experiences that have led them to feel this way, and to connect to these experiences emotionally. By doing this, we come to see that the person is not unworthy, but instead has had a variety of experiences and received a variety of messages that have caused them to feel this way. When a person can really see and feel this deeply, they are free to develop their true self-worth and live in a way that is less constricted and bound by fears from the past.
This is just one example of the many messages that we carry around and that lead us to feel like less than we truly are. I will help you to become aware of the messages that you carry that are hindering you. At the same time, we will work together to help you discover and develop your true self, the part of you that is whole, healthy, and can live with more vitality.
My way of working with people is to be open to feedback, and I will alter my approach based on what you need. I see myself as a helper and a guide and will check in with you to make sure that our work together is helping you.
In addition to talk therapy, when it is appropriate we may use EMDR, a highly effective trauma treatment, dream work, and mindfulness meditation. I taught for many years at New York Insight Meditation Center and am skilled at integrating mindfulness meditation with psychotherapy. I also served for a time on the Board of Directors at the Center for Spirituality and Psychotherapy and and can help you to connect to your own authentic spirituality if that is of interest to you. What is most important is that we will work together to use the tools that will most aid your healing and growth.