My Approach to Helping
If you’re used to being the tough one, used to rolling with whatever life throws your way, but you’re suddenly noticing that your way of being in the world isn’t serving you like it has in the past, therapy can be a really powerful resource to help you process what is happening. I help people who have been "muscling through" their lives, mostly by suppressing their feelings and important parts of themselves. You may be feeling that suddenly you cannot cope as well as you used to, and it’s reached a point where you can’t ignore it anymore. This can manifest in a variety of ways such as increased anxiety or depression, agitation and anger, relationship difficulties (including infidelity), and sleep difficulties. As your therapist, I can provide a stabilizing force in your life through a safe and nonjudgmental collaboration. I will stay present and engaged while we explore important truths that need daylight, truths which may not feel safe to share with the people in your life just yet. With my expertise and training, along with my desire to really hear your story, I will help you draw out and integrate parts of your experience that may have been ignored or need revisiting. Over time, you will gain an increased sense of wholeness and perspective, with noticeable changes in your feelings of agency and vitality.
I see myself as a collaborative partner with you in your growth and as such will frequently check in with you to make sure my understanding of you is aligned with your experience. I am trained as a relational psychoanalyst, which means we will be looking at how important aspects of your past have bearing on your present life choices and interpersonal patterns. It also means I will be attuned to how we interact over time, which will give us important data in the "here and now" experience. This data in combination with a more in-depth appreciation for your history is a powerful venue for change. My approach is active, supportive, respectful, and inquisitive, with a touch of playfulness where appropriate. When I first meet you, I can equip you with tools to help you cope with a current overload of internal and external stressors and will always give special attention to what pace of works best for you. In addition, we will collaborate on defining some short andor long-term goals that will help you flourish.
Being the tough one is not all it’s cracked up to be, and realizing that you need some help to move forward with your life in a healthy way is an opportunity to grow and develop more reliable and intentional strengths. Reach out and schedule a consultation and we’ll begin exploring what our work together might look like. Currently, I am conducting teletherapy, but after the quarantine is lifted, I can offer you the option of in-person therapy in my office, located off of I-684 in Armonk, NY.